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  • SillyPhillyGirl
    Junior Member
    • Oct 2014
    • 8

    Too Wet

    My partner and I have sex at least once a day, we don't use condoms and he finishes inside me every time. This combined with the fact that him just looking at me gets my juices flowing like Niagara falls and his precum makes things a bit too wet during sex. There have been a few times where despite our best efforts he just cant cum. Ive been doing kegels so I can grip him better but I know that itll be months before we notice any real differences. I also heard that taking benadryl an hour before sex can dry up the vaginal secretions. I also read somewhere that vinegar can be used to temporarily tighten the vagina but im a bit wary of putting vinegar up there.

    Any advice is much appreciated.
  • PhrendlyPhil
    Member
    • Jul 2013
    • 96

    Being able to lubricate quickly and easily is a blessing. But if your plethora of juices are resulting in too little friction for him then here are a few alternatives: Reduce frequency of intercourse to every other day or once every 3 days - this will allow him to reach orgasm with much less effort as the nerves in his penis have more time to recuperate. Also, you can try sexual positions which allow deeper penetration (missionary with your knees well apart and your pelvis tilted up, or doggy style). Deep penetration will give him a sensation of "tighness." If those don't work, you can have him cum on you instead of in you. That's a great way to add some novelty and creativity to your love sessions.

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    • bubba29
      Senior Member
      • Feb 2013
      • 116

      wetness is typically not a problem to prevent orgasm. is your partner masturbating on his own, doing drugs or drinking alcohol, taking medications? have you tried giving him a blowjob beforehand? have you tried pulling your legs up by your ears (that tightens things)?

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      • SillyPhillyGirl
        Junior Member
        • Oct 2014
        • 8

        He drinks socially maybe 1-3 drinks 4 times a week, but usually by the time we're ready to get down and dirty the alcohol should be mostly out of his system. He doesnt do drugs and no medication, Ive never so much as seen him take a tylenol. Im not so flexible, we've tried putting my ankles up there and I could barely walk the next day. Modefied doggystyle works well enough but I like deep penetration and i feel like he doesn't get as deep due to my large behind. We did have sex last night after abstaining for 24+ hours and holy cow it was amazing so it seems abstaining is the answer but we have a bit of a long distance relationship where it'll be a couple of weeks apart and then a couple weeks together so I try to get the goods as much as possible.

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        • kira
          Veteran Member
          • Feb 2008
          • 986

          Being too wet can most definitely be a problem even when everything else is fine. Skipping a day will make you dryer both from the moisture that leaves and I find I make more moisture for a few days after having sex as if my body wants to be ready for sex happening again. That'll dry up quickly with a break. It also makes him not just more sensitive but likely to get a firmer erection leading to more sensation on both sides. Softer erection plus excessive lubrication is a fast way to destroy all feeling but temperature.

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          • Texasred45
            Member
            • Sep 2014
            • 30

            I have also found that my gf's recent yoga sessions once or twice a week have made her significantly tighter, a pleasant surprise for both of us. I know it won't give overnight benefits, but when the alternative seems to be "have less sex!" it should be worth a try.

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