[angelgirl71]

I got so mad the other night after he did it I woke him up by dumping cold water on his area. He flow out of bed screaming I looked at him a just said go clean your mess up. It felt good to do that.

[lexi]

I don't think you should be mean to him. It sounds like he doesn't even know he is doing it. Dumping cold water on him just sounds cruel. If it really bothers you just wake him up.

[angelgirl71]

I know its sound bad that I did this. But the sheets and other stuff get stained. It's sometime alot and I get upset. I love him very much and I even asked him to masterbate befor bed if I am not in the mood. But he get mad. Have any idea.

[rexydon]

Wish i could help but i have never had the problem of masterbating in my sleep. I have fingered my partner in my sleep tho. I think its a subcounsious thing.

[angelgirl71]

Well two weeks has went by and its seem to slow up. It only happen three time. I know he took some advice I walk in on him masterbating in the shower before bed.He scream at me not to just walk in maybe he will fix that look now. I think that helped. I have been reading up on sleep sex has well.

[Hystorm]

Unless I am totally mistaken, it sounds like he needs a lot more than he is getting. You don't have to have sex with him if you are not feeling like it, just make sure he gets an orgasm and these issues will go away.
You should even try offering every night a BJ if that is your thing or a simple hand job. We guys are not picky (usually), just need that load off the mind as it were.

Chou.

[nikki22]

Unless I am totally mistaken, it sounds like he needs a lot more than he is getting. You don't have to have sex with him if you are not feeling like it, just make sure he gets an orgasm and these issues will go away.
You should even try offering every night a BJ if that is your thing or a simple hand job. We guys are not picky (usually), just need that load off the mind as it were.

Chou.

I agree with you. If he is doing this as a subconscious thing... then it is simply because he is lacking a sex life

[angelgirl71]

I had it with him today he was off from work so I dropped off the kids at school. So I needed to come home to finish get ready for work. I walked into the bed room and he's going to town. I look at him like what the **** I said why his answer was like I thought you left for work. Whats next anther women? I think I am going to force him to go get help or I'm done.

[rcoreyus]

Is he getting all the sex he wants from you?

[Richard S]

Well, you can't force him to get help. I mean, use ultimatums if you feel you have no other choice, but he has to see the point in it apart from being threatened. He needs to understand that he has a responsibility to his whole family.

Speaking as a guy, most of us masturbate, and when you get married you don't stop doing that (any more than women do), but once we get married we know we shouldn't have a sexual outlet that isolates us from our spouse.

You need to find out what's underneath this. Sounds like clinical depression to me. He's trying to escape from something. Compulsive masturbation is a form of sexual addiction, and there are therapists out there who deal with this as part of their job.