[beebee90]

My boyfriend and i have had sex a good bit but i can not seem to cum.
He has a lot of expierience and is used to getting girls off easily. I feel bad because afterwords he is in a bad mood and feels like he has failed because he just cant seem to get me off. I dont know what to do....i just cant cum. I have never came before in my life. Is that normal???
is there anything i can do to have more pleasureable sex???

[Rose5]

I've been married 24 years and I have never had an orgasm with my husband. It's very frustrating for both of us but that's the way it is. Don't be too concerned about what is normal, but if it helps, you're not the only one. Have you tried masturbating? You might be able to figure out what gets you there and then you can share that information with him.

[sophie_mate_2]

thank God but help is needed still!!!!

hey girls im new, it was good to hear that i was not the only women who has never came before it really frustrates me so much so that some times after sex i will sit and cry, unfortunately it is making me and my partner less interactive because he feels he is not doing it right, it has got that bad that he does not want to be in our relationship anymore is there anything that we can do about this situation to help our sex life as it was amazing before hand.

Thanks
soph

[pigwidgeon]

Don't despair! I was the same way for a really long time. I was very religious in high school, so when I got to college and started having sex with my boyfriend, I couldn't even feel it because I had such a huge psychological block. Do you have similar psychological hang-ups about sex? If you do, you need to try to work through them. Also, you should try masturbating. It might take a long time to reattune yourself to your body, but you're going to have to do that if you ever want a healthy sex life. Try a vibrator -- that's what really helped me get in touch with the sexual side of myself.

[TRYINGFOR#4]

HEY BEEBEE90 I WAS THERE AT ONE POINT TOO.. IT DOES SUCK IT JUST MAKES SEX NOT THAT MUCH OF AN EXPERIENCE... I HAVE NOTICED THAT IF MY HUSBAND STICKS HIS PENIS IN AND I GRIND AGAINST HIM AS HE SLOWLY PUSHES IT HELPS ME ORGASIM. i HAVE ALSO NOTICED THAT YOU NEED TO FIND SOMETHING HE DOES THAT EXCITES YOU . NOW I NEVER EVER LIKED A MAN GOING DOWN ON ME ONE NIGHT MY HUSBAND CONVINCED ME TO LET HIM AND OH BOY I WAS IN HEAVEN.. SO MAYBE YOU AND YOUR PARTNER SHOULD KINDA TALK ABOUT YOUR SEX LIFE OR TRY TO SPARK IT UP A LITTLE BIT I ADMIT IT MY HUSBAND AS TURNED ME INTO A FREAK WE HAVE STRIPPING NIGHT GAME NIGHT MASSAGE NIGHT SENDING DIRTY TEXT MESSAGES ALL DAY TO EACH OTHER WHILE WE ARE AT WORK SO BY THE TIME WE GET HOME AND GET OUR CHILDREN TO BED OUR SEXUAL TENSION IS SO HIGH WE ARE BOTH ABOUT TO EXPLODE.. I HOPE THIS HELPS THERE ARE CREAMS THAT YOU CAN USE TO HELP STIMULATE

[rae_eng]

try this--------

I am 39, I hadnt had an orgasm until i was about 28. My husband at the time, was my only sexual partner ever. I know it may sound a bit weird for someone who isnt in touch with thier bodies....but, as I became more comfortable, and familiar with my anatomy, I started experimenting. I learned how to massage my own clit, and have incredible, intense orgasms. It works great with your man too, because men think there is nothing sexier than a woman who will touch themselves.
So, during sex, I have always had to 'do myself' to have an orgasm. Even when men would try, I'd be like, just quit and let me do it! After divorcing, and going through several partners, and having sex every day for almost 3 yrs with my current bf, he has been the first to succeed at making me cum, but only a few times.
The way I look at it, it doesnt matter how i 'get there', I just get there! and its fantastic.

[metboogie]

You are not alone. My wife hadn't had an orgasm until she was with me.

Here are a few tips:

1 - Together, Google female orgasm and see of you can find the statistics of how many women have never had an orgasm. There are women I have been with that either couldn't orgasm, or could only orgasm from oral or manual stimulation. A large part of the female population is like that.

2 - Forget the orgasm. Maybe focus positions that provide extended pleasure for you (which can be just as good, if not better, than an orgasm) like doggystyle or you being on top.

3 - Talk to your gynocologist. They are experts on the vagina, and from their angle can certainly tell you what positions and angles of entry would work best. It may be that your clitoris is too far from your vagina, so it won't get stimulated through intercourse.

4 - Try a toy...don't use it as a replacement, but as a supplement. Have your bf be in control of it, just guide him with instructions. Maybe something that can penetrate and stimulate your clitoris at the same time (the rabbit). Or just something that can stimulate your clitoris while he is inside you.

5 - Again, focus on the pleasure and forget the orgasm. Make sure he knows that you feel good, real good during sex and the orgasm isn't as important.

Good luck.