[shweedart]

When I first got with my boyfriend he was determind to go down on me but I was new to everything so I refused to let him. We have a strong relationship and have done it all apart from oral on me, but now he just doesnt try anymore! Fair enough at the time he was fighting a losing battle but now im more comfortable with myself I keep thinking 'oh for god sake get down there'
It's all well enough thinking that but im not sure if it actually came to it i could? The thought of him being face to (sort of)face with me ladybits is a terrifying, i know i wouldnt wanna be down there! do you think maybe i should just bite my lip and let events unfold? or wait until theres not a doubt in my mind

when was the first time you all did?

[C]

When the time is right you will know it...You will have this deep pulsating between your legs...You will want to spread them for him when he comes near you....You will be wet with want....When you get that urge and honey you will, then gently take his head after you kiss him with passion and guide him down between your legs and spread...If you have panties on, pull them aside like my man did to me.....and show him this new joy in life that you will enjoy and if you are like me, hunger for all the rest of your life....and then enjoy.....over and over and over and over........

Seeing I was born at another time and another place it did not happen until we were engaged...But he was in the service so I guess I had known him in person only about 14 days....Guess I was pretty loose but what hot fun it was....

[bluesapphire315]

At first, I felt like you did in the begining but as we talked and I got more comfortable with myself, there was this one night when everything unfolded and next thing I know, he was giving me oral. It took a minute or two at first to get me used to it and after that it was simply amazing and he did it all the way to orgasm, which was quite intense.

you will know when it is right for you, for me, it just kinda happened one night. Next time your boyfriend even hints around about it, let him if you feel comfortable. Good Luck!!!

[metboogie]

Just tell him you want it...period.

[rcoreyus]

Or, actions speak louder than words. Climb on top for a 69. If he wanted to do this in the past, he probably still does, and will be happy for the opportunity.

[C]

A woman thinks about this sexual action much different than a man does. A woman has not exposed herself in life like a man has. He has one object to show...She has many and the best part of her is inside....It is not like a casual handshake....

[metboogie]

Caroline - I get the vulnerability aspect from a woman's perspective - but in this situation she has basically created a behavior in her BF where he isn't interested in it anymore because of the constant rejection he endured. So in this case, she can't expect him to be sensitive to the situation - he tried that and failed.

She has to be the aggressor - she has to take control. She has to be the one to make it happen. I love the idea of getting on top in the 69 position...she could also just sit on his face. Either way she has to be willing to take some rejection of her own...it's life.

[C]

Caroline - I get the vulnerability aspect from a woman's perspective - but in this situation she has basically created a behavior in her BF where he isn't interested in it anymore because of the constant rejection he endured. So in this case, she can't expect him to be sensitive to the situation - he tried that and failed.

She has to be the aggressor - she has to take control. She has to be the one to make it happen. I love the idea of getting on top in the 69 position...she could also just sit on his face. Either way she has to be willing to take some rejection of her own...it's life.

This is a tough one. After marriage I dug myself my own hole with this situation. This is a pleasure that a woman has that can also be an embarrassing situation. But this embarrassment may only last one second. Then she has entered heaven... Here she will probably never look back but keep saying more.. She loves it yet she is showing her most delicate and personal places of love. She is confused because these things are all against what she may have been taught or not taught about life.

I will agree that he is confused and she will have to swallow her inhibition and sock it to him....You are right...Jump on his face...

If her want for this erotic sexual act, is just half of my want and love for it...She is indeed a woman in heat......Go for it girl......

[CHANDLERS WISH]

How about a bit of sensuality?

She's nervous but wanting. He tried but failed. So, how about one night ,when it's dark, she puts on something sensual, picks up her mobile phone, when he is in the house, phones him, knowing he will answer, and says " honey, i'm in the bedroom and i want you to go d....n on me". That way it's a shock to him, and excitement for both. It's dark, she can always light a flicker of a candle and she is wearing something that she feels sexy in. ANTICIPATION! MOOD! And she hasn't had to tell him face to face.? Just a thought ....