[damd]

I promise this will be the last one...

Miffred, it appears that you are offended by the fact that I think that oral feels better than vaginal. Now there are a ton of reasons why I feel that way but the fact is I want it alllllll! Not just oral. Not just anal. Not just vaginal. And no I do not put one more important than the other. Well actualy thats not right, vaginal is more important, because for the most part, that is the only way my wife and I can climax together. So what you said about being with a guy not work for me; one he's a guy and I'm not gay, second like I said "I want it all!" which means the vagina, the mouth, the butt, the hands, ears, nose, eyeballs kidding...

Fallen you said " I think the trigger here was the use of the word "stuck". It not that it sounds degrading but that it sounds like you're having to settle for something. " That is exactly what is am saying. The question, which this word was used to answer, suggested that I must pick a method for the rest of my life. To settle. So if I had to choose, or be "stuck" with just one way to have sex, I would "settle" for vaginal. Settle, for that is exactly what I am doing in this scenario. Yes it's not good enough because I know what I would be missing. Try picking only one dish to eat for the rest of your life. What would you be stuck with? I'm not saying that vaginal is not great, it is. But if we were all content with it we would not be talking about BJs or anal or anything else.

I think there is the over ephasis on what the perferred method being oral. One, I don't think I ever said that is was my preference. Second, their are to many factors that go into preference, probably the most important is mood. But typically I perfer to be close, share and please my wife aswell, so again I choose vaginal. I can't get those other things from a BJ.

[damd]

"But if we were all content with it we would not be talking about BJs or anal or anything else."

I meant to say "But if we were all completly content with it we would not be talking about BJs or anal or anything else."

[metboogie]

Just caught up to this after a while - let me say this (after reading the back and forth)...

Men may prefer oral as much as they can get it for a couple of reasons:
1 - It is a sexual act in which it's all about US! No work, just sit there and be happy.
2 - If done properly, the orgasms from oral can be the most intense thing ever...and the right combination of techniques to prolong and tease and stimulate can make a man feel things in places he didn't know he had (like giving oral, using 1 hand to rub the sac and another to stimulate the anus...maybe while in the 69 position so he can please/tease you too)...
3 - It's not about tightness - it's about moving parts. With oral, a woman has 2 hands, her lips, tongue, teeth, throat, etc. With the vagina it's a 1 trick pony (albeit a GREAT trick)...so the feeling can get repetitive...

I guess if you are looking to please your man, first ask him what he likes. Second, take his answer and bring it to another level - blow his mind with your imagination and desire for him. Get yourself into a frame of mind where his pleasure = your pleasure. Lose yourself the moment...forget all inhibitions and you will please him either way.

The best sexual experiences I ever had were times when my lover and I went crazy, losing ourselves in eachother - they were all very animalistic experiences...we were literally hungry for eachother - almost bloodthirsty...definitely lust at it's peak (and sometimes combined with love)...we both did things we had never done before (I remember a specific time when I was pounding my lover against the wall...she pushed me back on the bed, jumped on top of me, licked me from my anus to the tip of my penis, jumped on top and instead of sliding me into her vagina and riding me, she slid me into her anus and rode me hard, fast and crazy...after a few minutes I threw her off, turned her around into doggy style, slid back into anal, grabbed her arms behind her back and pounded away until we were both screaming in ecstacy...when she knew I was about to cum she threw me back, sat on my face, and gave me the hand job from heaven...the next morning we had to piece the details together because it was all such a blur - that's how into each other we were).

[shweedart]

I couldnt blame a man for preferring oral sex in all honesty
as metboogie said we've got lips, tongue, hands etc...
And for guys I think sex can be hard work they've got all of these spots to find and with sex I dont suppose they can feel they way around so to speak! Especially as with oral sex its not usually done with a condom so I guess that must be a relief

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Yep.. That's a good point.. Sex with a condom is basically unenjoyable - for me. Less stimulating than a wank.

[lovemyself1]

oh wow, you guys and girls are hilarious!!! just reading all of these replies made me laugh so hard.

as for my sexperience...i love go give head! love it love it love it! it gives me great pleasure to please my man. I was told by someone that had a lot of previous experience before being with me, that i was the best so far...i think because i enjoy it. I guess men like that wet sloppy bj with hand action, licking, oh and dont forget the twins!! they usually like attention too but be gentle. If you have never licked the boys with your man then try it....it will surprise him ( most men like it)! but if you decide to try it...dont be timid, do it like you know what you are doing.. it will blow his mind.

Have fun, keep me posted if anyone sexperiments!!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

lovemyself1
oh wow, you guys and girls are hilarious!!! just reading all of these replies made me laugh so hard.

Interesting comment....

Very pleased that you love,love,love it.. I can tell you that most of the people that made you "laugh", love, love, love it to.... trust me....

Guess we all say things in different ways, you know, excited, experienced, sensual, or maturely.

What makes it so interesting, is different peoples perspectives and views on bj's, i mean, it's all about the "feeling of it" which you obviously agree, from a female point of view of course, although personally i've enjoyed the ride of listening to the male's point of view if you get my drift...

Very enlightening to see how they're thinking.. Just one extra tip from a man's point of view, said via more than one man is worth it's weight in gold... I .... Feel......

CW

[lovemyself1]

CW,
i agree that a man's point of view is highly important in this issue. just the way men seek pointers from women reguarding pleasing us orally.
I really enjoy all the openness on this site.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

CW,
i agree that a man's point of view is highly important in this issue. just the way men seek pointers from women reguarding pleasing us orally.
I really enjoy all the openness on this site.

True.... Everything i learn't mind you i learn't from my man if i didn't know it already... lol.

However, those little tid bits offered, kind of added or re-affirmed on some occasions,

I feel the same, regarding your last paragraph...

CW

[AliciaV]

I haven't given many blowjobs because I wasn't really a fan until recently. Here's what I know though!

1. I know tons of guys like a girl to massage their sack. My current boyfriend says that he loves that and believe me I can tell.

2. Get a guy on the edge, when you can feel him tightening and then stop. Let him cool down and then start again until he orgasms. It'll be 10 times better because it was built up. It's a fun way to tease!

3. Run your tongue over the fendulum(spelling?!) which is a spot right under the head of the penis. It's supposed to really turn them on. You can't do that the whole time but you should try and incorporate a little bit every once in a while.

Those are just a few things I know. I'm still learning! ^^;