[Dollface2008]

thats really cool that you found someone so good for you. I wish i could just find mine! but all the things you listed are all really the standards ever one should have for there soul mate. but unfortunatly we have to date, and have sex with all the wrong ones till we can meet the right one, one that knows how to finger! haha

[CHANDLERS WISH]

thats really cool that you found someone so good for you. I wish i could just find mine! but all the things you listed are all really the standards ever one should have for there soul mate. but unfortunatly we have to date, and have sex with all the wrong ones till we can meet the right one, one that knows how to finger! haha

Hi dollface, that's a fair cool to be honest but it's not as hard as you think.

It has taken me years, absoultely years, including getting engaged, married all sorts seeking that "soul mate"...

The beauty of youth is you can teach each other, each other and what you like it is when you are older that you appreciate it all a lot more...

I to had "sex" with the wrong ones but if you believe that you may very well continue down that path for a long time and what's the point? Disappointment after disappointment?

The only thing that i have learnt from all of that experience was not to have sex.

To talk, communicate, listen of course there has to be a physical attraction.

But i then saw with my own eyes i guess what i have been missing and what i really wanted and put my piece in to where i wanted to of what i like so that we both understand each other totally, now we are going to have sex................. lol....

But the refersal? Well, unless you can discuss and teach each other what you both like and the rest of your relationship is warm and fuzzy and full of love, therefore he may be your soul mate, i know would say do the talking over time, before the walking......

That's just my middle age opinion.....

CW

[Dollface2008]

SO I HAVE GOT TO SAY: Thank you to everyone who gave me advice on this topic. I put it to practice with him this past friday and let me say. The one finger advice DID WONDERS. Upon him taking off my close he is fairly predictable with forplay seeing as we have sex alot I knew where he was going next and he reached down and I grabbed his hand and said "only use one finger" and he was like "why?" and i said "because just trust me the sex will be better." AND WOW WAS IT. Ive never had better sex then I did that night. YAY for womens health! haha you guys rock thanks for the advice. after words he was like "how did you know about the one finger thing? why didnt you tell me that before?" and I said "I just got some good advice it doesnt matter who gave it to me" haha thanks again!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

So and your next adventure there would be?

LOL..

You did well to be informative and frontal and well, he has no idea where you received that advice from, good for you!

CW

[Dollface2008]

i know! i told onea my girlfriends about the one finger thing and her face was like really!? hahaa i was like YEAH! im spreading the word haha

[C]

By using the one middle finger and the thumb stimulating the clit, you are awakening both parts of the inner woman...Please understand that all women do not have an active G-spot. This is both up to the woman and how she releases her passion and her lover if he can find this...It can be a wonderful and very wet trip to paradise....But don't look for it.....It will find you.....TC, C

[Dollface2008]

By using the one middle finger and the thumb stimulating the clit, you are awakening both parts of the inner woman...Please understand that all women do not have an active G-spot. This is both up to the woman and how she releases her passion and her lover if he can find this...It can be a wonderful and very wet trip to paradise....But don't look for it.....It will find you.....TC, C

yeah the middle finger-tumb combo was exactly what he was doin and he was mastering it. haha but yeah agree with you on being comftorble enough in bed with the other person before you can truly experience full arrousal and climax.

[Uneeklyme]

"over fingering"

Many women cannot orgasm from vaginal penetration. Having said that, if you can but don't its not necessarily due to the vaginal muscles being loose. Using more fingers takes more time to work up to. Meaning, fingering usually doesn't go from naked to two, three, or even four fingers in the first five minutes. With that in mind... think about how numb or even irritated a spot on your body gets when you rub it over and over. Try it. Rub a spot on your arm with one finger for a couple of minutes. Now add another and rub for two minutes. Now add another and rub for two minutes. It becomes somewhat desensitized and less receptive. It's the same with fingering. It may not be so much that the vaginal muscles are stretched to loose, it may just be that its overstimulated and numb which obviously takes away from the good feelings. For some one finger is all thats needed or wanted. For others, not so. I personally get off on the feeling of full rather than the friction. To much friction and my chances for orgasm decrease. Having children does change your body but kegels help to bounce things right back into shape. Also, when an episiotomy is performed and the doctor puts that stitch in that so many men joke about... the "love stitch"... it's not so much that the stitching makes a vagina tighter, it's more that there is more scar tissue that doesn't stretch easily causing the tightness.

At any rate... bless your hubby's heart for trying so hard to please you and cudos to you for taking the bull by the horns and being open and honest with him about your desires. Communication is really key in any type of relationship.

[Dollface2008]

Many women cannot orgasm from vaginal penetration. Having said that, if you can but don't its not necessarily due to the vaginal muscles being loose. Using more fingers takes more time to work up to. Meaning, fingering usually doesn't go from naked to two, three, or even four fingers in the first five minutes. With that in mind... think about how numb or even irritated a spot on your body gets when you rub it over and over. Try it. Rub a spot on your arm with one finger for a couple of minutes. Now add another and rub for two minutes. Now add another and rub for two minutes. It becomes somewhat desensitized and less receptive. It's the same with fingering. It may not be so much that the vaginal muscles are stretched to loose, it may just be that its overstimulated and numb which obviously takes away from the good feelings. For some one finger is all thats needed or wanted. For others, not so. I personally get off on the feeling of full rather than the friction. To much friction and my chances for orgasm decrease. Having children does change your body but kegels help to bounce things right back into shape. Also, when an episiotomy is performed and the doctor puts that stitch in that so many men joke about... the "love stitch"... it's not so much that the stitching makes a vagina tighter, it's more that there is more scar tissue that doesn't stretch easily causing the tightness.

At any rate... bless your hubby's heart for trying so hard to please you and cudos to you for taking the bull by the horns and being open and honest with him about your desires. Communication is really key in any type of relationship.

wow yeah ive never really thought about it like that. Thats a good analogy with the finger rub on your arm. Its very true though now that i think about it because we wernt getting anywhere before because he was so eager to go that it was to harsh prior to sex causing bad sex, i get off once then no fun for him because hes over prepaired me....so yeah love this website its very informitive!