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I cannot orgasm unless I have clit stimulation... is it even possible otherwise or are women just playing it up and possibly oh, faking it?

[BoostedJess]

Actually, I feel I'm closest when there is Clitoral stimulation..

[C]

A woman can have wonderful vaginal and g-spot orgasms but this can take time...Being in love and knowing each other's bodies is the key to the closeness of sex...It involves much trust and giving of each other to achieve these orgasms....But they are there....TC, C

[Richard S]

I don't know how old you are. Back in the 70's it was a big deal for women to understand that if they only orgasm clitorally, they are not only normal but in the majority. The clitoris is a complex organ that has "crura" that extend down to the area around the vagina. A man's girth matters more than his length. But more to the point, the right man can make all the difference.

But, as a matter of practical reality, most women prefer a man who is at least somewhat talented with oral sex, and there's no shame to keeping a "rabbit" or other type of vibrator handy.

Speaking as a guy, it's a big validation of my masculinity if I can make a woman come just by thrusting and using my c*ck the right way. There's some sort of biological mechanism that leads to simultaneous orgasm, where the vagina starts to contract, and that helps the guy to come. I even saw a PBS documentary once where they showed how the cervix will sort of "dip" to give the sperm cells a head start. Kinda freaky if you think about it for too long.

So, like I said, I don't know how old you are. My personal experience is that most women younger than 25 don't have a clue what their body's potential is. Stay open to new experiences. Have fun.

[miffed23]

I cannot orgasm unless I have clit stimulation... is it even possible otherwise or are women just playing it up and possibly oh, faking it?

Hey sweet, me too..although ive never been lucky enough to have a guy that spends enough time to help me have a vaginal orgasm.

I think Caroline sums it up, being in a loving realtionship is possibly the only way to achieve an orgasm through penetration alone...? unless youre one of those incredibly lucky ladies

[LadyLane]

Well, Caroline is summing up her experience but I have them both ways and I've certainly had vaginal orgasms with guys I've only mildly tolerated (okay, I'm embellishing, but I wasn't deeply in love with a transcendant mental connection, either).

I was surprised the first time I had one without clitoral stimulation and it wasn't until I had been having sex for four years that it happened. And then it happened with the next partner, and the next. It would depend on position and things like that, but it happened a lot once it started.

[C]

Well, Caroline is summing up her experience but I have them both ways and I've certainly had vaginal orgasms with guys I've only mildly tolerated (okay, I'm embellishing, but I wasn't deeply in love with a transcendant mental connection, either).

I was surprised the first time I had one without clitoral stimulation and it wasn't until I had been having sex for four years that it happened. And then it happened with the next partner, and the next. It would depend on position and things like that, but it happened a lot once it started.

I have only been with one man in my life...so my experience is limited...BUT I know it tooks years for me to let myself go to give to him all of the sexual woman that we all are....That was a day that my legs were up over his shoulders and when he hit my active G-spot and with the vaginal thrust I screamed with the pleasure of what was happening...This was the first time in my life I have ever done this...The next day my husband reminded me about it in the car...He said the dog that was on the floor howled so I guess I got off pretty good...And now I smile more with my new sexual knowledge of love....Ladylane you were lucky.....This kind of sex makes my bones ache but how I love it...TC, C

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Well, Caroline is summing up her experience but I have them both ways and I've certainly had vaginal orgasms with guys I've only mildly tolerated (okay, I'm embellishing, but I wasn't deeply in love with a transcendant mental connection, either).

I was surprised the first time I had one without clitoral stimulation and it wasn't until I had been having sex for four years that it happened. And then it happened with the next partner, and the next. It would depend on position and things like that, but it happened a lot once it started.

If you laugh then i'm going to have to "kill you" who wrote that comment?

I agree, i am in "lust" and i haven't even been with this guy, it's been 5 months and just by "words" and words alone and expectation of course, i have been able to have both, and other things that i'll just say i never knew were soooo great!!!!

The power of men with knowledge on "HOW" to do, is all i have to say...

CW

[ciscopup]

I believe the secret to good orgasms is total comfort with the partner you are with. The man that I am with now if the first man in my life that I have been 100% comfortable with. Because of that, I am now having the best sex I have ever had in my life. If there is something I want, I ask...if I want him to change positions, I ask. Of course, there is a very, very, strong physical attraction to him so that helps. A couple of days ago, I was able to climax by him simply kissing and massaging my breasts. It takes some practice but you can flex your clitoris repeatedly for a few minutes, several times a day. Over time, you can get really, really good at this an create an orgasm on command or with just a little stimulation.

[jennicamorel]

I've heard it go both ways. For me I'm more of a g, but that's only when I'm comfortable with a guy. Otherwise it's with the c. Have any of you noticed if it's better or worse in different areas depending on how comfortable with the guy you are?