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  • Kelon
    Junior Member
    • Apr 2008
    • 1

    I agree with those who said relationships tend to go through phases. There have been times where I haven't wanted intercourse and wanted mainly oral, times when I wanted other things, and times when I wanted only intercourse - it comes and goes and IMO there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

    Having said that, there IS something wrong with your husband not reciprocating the pleasure you're giving him. There have been times when I haven't been in the mood but my wife was, or vice versa, but we always try to make time for one another. If he wants something specific, there really isn't any good reason to deny that in a healthy relationship, but a healthy relationship implies that the concern is mutual - which it doesn't seem to be in this instance. I think you need to basically sit down with him and explain how you feel - maybe he hasn't been in the mood for intercourse but there are other ways for him to satisfy you, but you should definitely make it plain that he needs to pay more attention to your needs.

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    • rcoreyus
      Veteran Member
      • Sep 2007
      • 4369

      Is there any chance he is worried about getting you pregnant from intercourse, and that is why he only wants oral.

      I don't understand the "sore" part. What is sore?

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      • hello_pitty
        Veteran Member
        • Mar 2008
        • 211

        Well I noticed that we are starting to have "Actual" sex more often, sometimes twice in one day!! lucky me!! hehe. So I guess it WAS just a phase. But he was also sick too alot last month and his body was always aching.
        "I might be a little young, but honey I ain't naive"
        "If it ain't an APBT, it's just a dog"

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