[JRod]

This question is mostly for the men but ladies responses are More than welcome as well. I'm wondering if other men have experienced this and or if it is more mental than physical for me. In my current relationship of 6 years I almost never cum with oral. I couldn't ask her to do anything different, she is great. We separated once for about seven months and in that time I was with a couple of other women (that's not the topic, no negativity please LOL) and with them I was able to finish in a fair amount of time. Do you think it was just because of the excitement of someone new? Because I can't say that they felt any better or any different. Thanks!

[Something_Awesome]

I honestly am not too big on BJ's and always had "trouble" with them. I've been with my GF for four years and have had three BJ's at the max. So I guess I could relate, except you seem to really like them.

[Pearlami]

I think with those other women you came faster and easier bc of the excitement of a new woman. And your gf just has to work harder and longer. She can do it hahah

[muffin70]

My wife is too paranoid that I will ejaculate in the middle of a blow job, so on the rare occasion she gives me one I always wear a chocolate flavoured condom - and she will always finish me off by hand....

[Lexhill]

I don't have any problems to cum with my wife that I've been with for a decade. But I do feel that there are 2 different excitements from blowjobs. There is the feel good sensation that does not trigger ejaculation and there is the stimulation for ejaculation where there are usually more pressure and stimulation of areas that make me cum faster.

Jrod ask if your wife can massage/tickle the foreskin attachment under your penis head with her tongue when giving you a blowjob, with some pressure. Educate her to the perfect pressure for you. Se if that does a differences. I also do believe if you get a lot of blowjobs it can make you last longer, you might therefor seem to not be able to cum. While the reality is that you have built up stamina for the sensation given by oral from your partner. When switching partner the techniques and pressure will be different therefor making you cum easier.

That's my thought on your question from my own experience.

[Texasred45]

I've never had an orgasm from oral, never ejaculated, even though my gf has made a study of oral techniques; what she does is VERY pleasurable, and she's always trying something new and different - and often better!
I think my problem could be psychological: subconciously, I might feel that it's demeaning to women. When I was younger, it was considered to be something "dirty" and/or something only a prostitute would do to you - yeah, I know, that was a long time ago, but I was young a very long time ago! :-)

[Motorguy]

Oh boy you guys are missing out big time. The wife loves doing oral on me as she even enjoys swallowing as well. But we love doing oral on each other I never had to ask wife to do oral she always ready for it as I am with her too.

[Lexhill]

There are of course possible to have psychological reason for not being able to ejaculate from oral as your mind is a powerful force in your body.

[Something_Awesome]

Taking the "prostitute" example... Maybe you were taught to think the same way about BJ's and have problems climaxing with your SO because you respect her too much? Just a shot in the dark.

[Texasred45]

Taking the "prostitute" example... Maybe you were taught to think the same way about BJ's and have problems climaxing with your SO because you respect her too much? Just a shot in the dark.

I'm sure it's that exactly; she says "You know what the problem is, just get over it!" - in a nice way! But I tell her it's like knowing your arm is broken: that knowledge doesn't help it heal...