[Lexhill]

Muffin70: We as men need to realize that women are different then men. I don't know how it is in your house but often women do a lot more chores at home then men. Therefor the comment if you did that I would be happy. Men often have a better ability to overlook things and focus on the now. We as men need to accept that. It's also been proven that most women get's aroused or stimulated in some way seeing men doing chores that are perceived as manly. Therefor bringing them closer to accepting sexual contact. But still they often need more work that that.

What I've just learned is that I've forgotten to do some of the things I used to do that gave my wife more energy and aroused her. Shes then been able to give me more of the things I've been missing.

I asked my wife when I last turned her on, the answer I don't know made me realize I have been neglecting her as well.

I would also guess your wife would appreciate it if she did not have to ask you for it to get done. But again I do not know your complete arrangement. so maybe she is doing to little as well.

[muffin70]

well last weekend wife & I tried doggy style, as she's not been able to do it for over 8 months with her knee problems... and as it had been a long time since last doggy style I lasted no longer than 2 minutes! But she said that was about all she could handle with her knee anyway so I wasn't fussed.
I've asked her what her fantasies are and what turns her on, but she says 'nothing really'.... I know if I lost a little more weight she'd probably be happier with me
but sometimes wonder if I did have a larger penis or could last 10 minutes plus during sex, she would be more 'pleased' but she has said that doesn't bother her.
I've told her all my fantasies and most she wouldn't do because it would invole either ejaculating over her breasts, ejaculating over one of her sexy scarves, or her giving me a blow job without me having to wear a flavoured condom.... but occassionally she will wear one of her sexy scarves during sex, because she knows it turns me on a lot!

[Lexhill]

I tried a little different approach. That was to ask her when I last triggered her sexually. As she did not remember I said I had failed her and that we need to work on that. She gave me some things she'd been missing. And after that even with some odds going against us it's been more then twice as much action in our bedroom. Most likly you penis size will not be a reason for lack of interest. stamina on the other hand is a small catch 22. No sex shorter stamina, more sex longer stamina. Good physical shape can also increase stamina and mind control. Don't ever go down the road of thinking you penis is to small that is a destructive thought process. When it comes to stamina I struggle with that as well now. But I have found a way of going around this with foreplay. A position you can try that is less "messy" (fluid wise) and that can help maintaining erection after orgasm is to get it inn then let her gather her legs with your legs on the outside of her's in missonary. it also stimulates her a little more.

When it comes to fantasies I struggle to get anything from my wife as well but I know she likes a good full body massage. I then make sure to massage her butt and upper inner thigh well to. it usually makes her a little wet. Maybe this can help you.

[muffin70]

I tried a little different approach. That was to ask her when I last triggered her sexually. As she did not remember I said I had failed her and that we need to work on that. She gave me some things she'd been missing. And after that even with some odds going against us it's been more then twice as much action in our bedroom. Most likly you penis size will not be a reason for lack of interest. stamina on the other hand is a small catch 22. No sex shorter stamina, more sex longer stamina. Good physical shape can also increase stamina and mind control. Don't ever go down the road of thinking you penis is to small that is a destructive thought process. When it comes to stamina I struggle with that as well now. But I have found a way of going around this with foreplay. A position you can try that is less "messy" (fluid wise) and that can help maintaining erection after orgasm is to get it inn then let her gather her legs with your legs on the outside of her's in missonary. it also stimulates her a little more.

When it comes to fantasies I struggle to get anything from my wife as well but I know she likes a good full body massage. I then make sure to massage her butt and upper inner thigh well to. it usually makes her a little wet. Maybe this can help you.

thanks - my wife does enjoy a good body massage.... but the last 2-3 times I've done that I get about 3/4 of the way through the massage only to hear her zzzzzzzzzz and she's fast asleep! and I'm left there with a throbbing erection and end up having to releive myself.....
We've never really watched porn together.... years ago we watched a few adult DVD's .... she likes the movies that have a good story to them... where as I like the ones that just have lots of sex and messy cumsh0ts....

we are hoing on holiday in a couple of weeks to a place that has hot mineral pools and every time we go away we seem to have better sex... maybe it is because we are not under any 'stress' from work...etc...?

I've never really worried about my penis because I knoww my wife loves me just as I am :-)