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  • cathygirl
    Senior Member
    • Dec 2010
    • 108

    Delicate question about porn

    I'm not sure I've actually started a new thread here, but I have a question / curiosity about which I'm not sure where else to ask. I have a newly made friend (totally straight) who recently whispered that she prefers watching lesbian porn to any other kind. She brought it up when I casually mentioned that I understand female-female relationships because I'm bi myself. I thought I was rather unique, but then I'm about as perfectly balanced bi as I can be (though I'm married and monogamous). So it always made sense to me that I would like it, but it is a complete surprise to me that totally straight women would like it as well. And this person really is totally straight... Thoughts? Is this common with folks here?
  • Something_Awesome
    Veteran Member
    • Apr 2014
    • 1219

    She is not totally straight (is any woman totally straight?). Also, lesbian porn is better geared towards women. "Straight" porn is more geared towards guys. Lesbian porn tends to be more sensual etc.

    Also, the guys in porn generally go about it as if they are sex gods, which has to be a turnoff. Lesbian porn seems to be more about the other person.
    "Are you serious? You're bleeping THAT girl?" - jen1447

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    • effy2014
      Veteran Member
      • Apr 2014
      • 1777

      I don't think you can tell anything about a person's sexual identification from the porn he or she finds interesting. Porn is entertainment and, writing personally, my preferences change depending on my moods. I can watch all types of porn without identifying with any of the actors. So often we confuse fantasy with how people act or are supposed to act in real life.

      Frankly, I enjoy lesbian porn as much as any genre because it is more sensual, the plot lines sometimes make sense and it is less athletic.
      "The only consistent feature of all of your dissatisfying relationships is you." Despair.com "Dysfunction"

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      • Motorguy
        Veteran Member
        • Mar 2014
        • 3921

        Well Cathy, there is more and more women who have become bi as it's more accepted now days as husband I believe get turn on watching there wife with another women. This is many married men's dream of watching there wife with another women to maybe hoping the wife will be ok if husband joins in. My wife is bi as she been bi since she been sexually active. The wife has her girls night out parties a few times a years where no men are allow for there fun weekend together with other women friends.
        When out driving always turn left. Then, should you become lost, you can find your way home by reversing the procedure and always turning right.

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        • cathygirl
          Senior Member
          • Dec 2010
          • 108

          There are also many bi people who are monogamous. I have no interest in "performing" for my husband to watch, though we do like watching girl-girl scenes together. He no more wants to watch me with another woman than I would want to watch him with another woman. All of us are attracted to somebody we are not married to, but choose not to have sex with them. But my husband, for example, would not be attracted to watching male-male porn (something I also like to see). But he is not bi, and most men who are not bi I don't think are attracted to that. It seems more women who don't identify as bi still are attracted to watching two women. It's that difference that I find curious, something I was not aware of (sheltered as I am :-) )

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          • Motorguy
            Veteran Member
            • Mar 2014
            • 3921

            Well I am straight and wife is bi as we both enjoy, watching lesbian porn. But never male on male that's not are thing not saying it's bad. This is not our cup of tea to watch. But my wife will just enjoys her fun with dear close women friends on girls night out weekends it works for us both for most of are 27 year marriage.
            When out driving always turn left. Then, should you become lost, you can find your way home by reversing the procedure and always turning right.

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            • kira
              Veteran Member
              • Feb 2008
              • 986

              Totally straight. Completely turned off by lesbian porn and scenes. Never even had weird dreams about doing things with another woman and I've had some weird sex dreams. The most interesting part of porn for me is seeing penis doing things. I get bored watching oral. A slight story to it would be better but is so hard to find. The reasons given for women not watching straight porn is why I don't watch it too often lately. The sex is too geared toward men. However, I've never bought professional porn. I watched some softcore, straight porn with stories on the women's channel back when we paid for tv. Otherwise I watch amateur porn online. My husband prefers the amateur porn too. He likes the kissing and oral scenes more than the actual sex. Our opposite tastes make both of us watching porn together a bit difficult.

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              • muffin70
                Veteran Member
                • Aug 2013
                • 384

                well I'm totally 100% straight male and have been happily married for 13 years this year.... I don't really like lesbian porn... might sound strange, but for me there needs to be a male involved for me to be interested - mainly because I love watching the mans climax / orgasm at the end.... especially if the woman (or women) jerk the man off - that really turns me on.

                But last year I was casually looking up some porn and stumbled across some gay male porn compilations... and I watched a bit out of interest and got totally turned on watching gay men ejaculate over each other.... I felt a bit embarrased really because I've not had any 'gay' thoughts at all

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                • Pepperminty
                  Member
                  • Nov 2014
                  • 36

                  I've never found lesbian porn stimulating (or any porn, for that matter) but I can see why a straight woman would like it, and why it doesn't mean she's bi or gay. If you were to look at lesbian porn vs. most porn (which is aimed at straight men), lesbian porn is almost always more emotional whereas straight male porn is focused on the man dominating and sometimes even humiliating the woman. It's no surprise to me that some women prefer the former to the latter.

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