[hello_pitty]

I like anal once in a while. BF loves it too! But the first time I tried, it we went SOOO slow, but finally achieved full penetration at super slow speed. Use LOTS of lube!!

Remember, with anal, YOU'RE the boss, not him. Only you know when it hurts and when to stop or slow down.

[lexi]

lube...this is SUPER important!!!!

[ChelseaRenee]

I can't really see a reason why not to do it... Get relaxed, go slowly, and enjoy trying something new... It'll probably hurt a bit at first, but didn't vaginal sex? You know some women actually love anal, so there must be something there for them... If the guy is not really very nice, then don't bother, but if he cares for you and is just trying out something new, what's the problem? He'd probably get the poo kicked out of him defending you from someone, so a little reciprocation would be nice...

Anal sex is something that guys have been doing since we were monkeys, by the way. It's not totally messed up, it's natural. If you don't like it, it's not like you have to do it all the time, but a good love life is about give and take, if he can enjoy something more than you don't like it, then fine, I'm sure he does/would do things that he didn't like for your benefit too - and he might even get to like them, as might you.

From what I've read, the first few times are not going to be that pleasurable. But after a few times once you both know what you're doing it can be quite nice...

For the record, I've tried it a couple of times out of curiosity - and I thought that most women are making a mountain out of a molehill about this issue to be honest.

I'm definitely not goading you here, I'm genuinely curious. Were you the giver or receiver? Because unless you've received, I don't think you can say we're making a mountain out of a molehill...lmao. I have to assume it would be an absolute world of difference for the two sexes, sensation wise.

[Just-a-regular-guy]

Wanting to try....

My wife has hinted at it in the heat of passion..... I'm planning to talk to her before things get that hot and try a finger or two or three to see how it goes.... most of you say that it feels good once the penis is fully inserted..... should I go in all the way - a little at a time? Is the anus and colon able to take that - if it's slow? I would love to get all the way inside, but I want to be careful..... also... HOW does it feel good.... what actually feels good? The area - the anus - the inside????

[anonymouswhitefemale]

I'm definitely not goading you here, I'm genuinely curious. Were you the giver or receiver? Because unless you've received, I don't think you can say we're making a mountain out of a molehill...lmao. I have to assume it would be an absolute world of difference for the two sexes, sensation wise.

Recieved, with a strap on. So, I know what I'm talking about when I say women make a mountain out of a molehill . I'm not dumb enough to think that if giving doesn't hurt then recieving doesn't haha!

Obviously though, giving for a woman is pretty much only a psychological thing.

[Fallen1]

Recieved, with a strap on. So, I know what I'm talking about when I say women make a mountain out of a molehill . I'm not dumb enough to think that if giving doesn't hurt then recieving doesn't haha!

Obviously though, giving for a woman is pretty much only a psychological thing.

Not necessarily.

Just because it wasn't that uncomfortable to you (or maybe no pain involved) doesn't mean that it's that way for everyone. Just as childbirth, it may be a breeze for some women, others it may be very painful.

[hello_pitty]

Not necessarily.

Just because it wasn't that uncomfortable to you (or maybe no pain involved) doesn't mean that it's that way for everyone. Just as childbirth, it may be a breeze for some women, others it may be very painful.

I agree. But some women also do not know how to handle it the first time. They are raised to believe child birth is EXTREMELY unbearable pain that you need drugs and doctors all around, but how did our ancestors survive through childbirth when there was no drugs or doctors? Also the same with Anal, how did women get through it? Yeah of course, with both situations, there might be pain because you've never done it before, but once you've experienced it you'll most likely want more...if it was done right (both situations)

haha I know I sound like a crazy woman, but that's true! In fact my cousin just gave birth at home, no drugs no doctors, not even a midwife, and she said it was the most wonderful experience of her life!

If anal is done right, and I mean STUDY before you try it, then it could have you coming back for more

[Fallen1]

I agree. But some women also do not know how to handle it the first time. They are raised to believe child birth is EXTREMELY unbearable pain that you need drugs and doctors all around, but how did our ancestors survive through childbirth when there was no drugs or doctors? Also the same with Anal, how did women get through it? Yeah of course, with both situations, there might be pain because you've never done it before, but once you've experienced it you'll most likely want more...if it was done right (both situations)

haha I know I sound like a crazy woman, but that's true! In fact my cousin just gave birth at home, no drugs no doctors, not even a midwife, and she said it was the most wonderful experience of her life!

If anal is done right, and I mean STUDY before you try it, then it could have you coming back for more

As I've said before, for me it does nothing other than the fact that I enjoy the pleasure he gets. I could take it or leave it. But to say that every woman that is experiencing discomfort or pain is just making a mountain out of a mole hill just isn't right. Each one of our bodies are different we all have different pain thresholds and what is painful for one may not be painful for another.

On the line of child birth, I've had two children and both births were extremely different. My first was as your cousin's, a breeze, nothing to it. It had me wondering what the big deal was. The second was quite a different story, to put it mildly it was horrific. I had never experienced such pain. I had been given two different doses of Demoral (sp?) and was still begging for something .... but would I have done it again? Sure.

As far as our ancestors, they did it because they had to, they had no other choice/option.

The point I was making was just because it's considered nothing to one person doesn't mean it will be that way for everyone.

[Uneeklyme]

was going to avoid the subject since the last time didn't go so well butt... heh

If its done right it can be incredible. An orgasm during anal for me is intense. It's not something we do a whole lot but we do enjoy it a whole lot when we do it.

Again... go slooowwww. Start small and work up in size. There is no such thing as to much lube. It helps to be aroused when attempting anal. Having an orgasm beforehand might help. If it hurts, stop. Don't use numbing lubes (anal eez and its counterparts) pain is our body's way of telling us something is wrong. Never go from anal to vaginal. Bacteria=bad. Some people like to prep before anal. IE: bowel movement and maybe an enema. Maybe use condoms. Depends on how icked you are about potential mess. Trust your partner. If you say stop it means stop. If you dont trust this will happen then dont go there. Some (not all) people report that bearing down during insertion helps. Take some deep breaths. RELAX. If your tense then the sphincters are tense and its not going to happen or its going to hurt like a buggar. Again, pain= stop, something is not right. Try different positions. If it goes well, it can be incredible.

Men can enjoy anal as well... on them I mean. Same rules apply. The prostate is accessable which, if stimulated, can turn a man into putty in your hands. Im told that the orgasms that can result from prostate stimulation are sometimes like no other feeling of pleasure ever. Bonus... prostate stimulation can (i say can not does) help a man avoid prostate issues.

[lexi]

Recieved, with a strap on. So, I know what I'm talking about when I say women make a mountain out of a molehill . I'm not dumb enough to think that if giving doesn't hurt then recieving doesn't haha!

Obviously though, giving for a woman is pretty much only a psychological thing.

I disagree.. I did it the first time with high hopes and I had been told that it didn't hurt and it would be great. I didn't like it and it was very uncomfortable...The only thing that made it a little better was a LOT of lube but I still don't enjoy it and it is because it doesn't feel good for me. Everyone has different pain thresholds...There are women who love it and some of us who don't and its not a psychological thing...

What I am saying is that you can tell us about your experience but you can't just generalize that experience and think that everyone has that same experience.