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  • muffin70
    Veteran Member
    • Aug 2013
    • 384

    Birthday sex?

    Does anyone do anything special sexually for their partner on their birthday?
    Reason I'm asking is because my birthday is this week and my wife said she will do 'something special' for me
    Now I don't know if this means she will wear her new scarf, or wear several scarves or give me a blow job (which I get about twice a year)
    While I'm happy to receive sexual pleasures from my wife any time, I'd like to get more of this during the year and not just on my birthday

    does anyone else do special things for their partner on their birthday?
  • Ashlee T.
    Veteran Member
    • Dec 2008
    • 6412

    Maybe some extra special attention, but I'm always very sexually attentive so birthdays are no exception to that. I do hear that a lot though, especially from married couples.

    Try giving her a very positive reaction if she does something you really enjoy. Positive reinforcement. Give her positive verbal feedback but also positive physical feedback as well in the form of extra affection.
    "Be what you're looking for."

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    • Motorguy
      Veteran Member
      • Mar 2014
      • 3921

      Well my wife birthday was yesterday. I woke her up with oral pleasure after her morning orgasm. I went to make breakfast and served her in bed. She did the same for me on my birthday in June. This been a tradition for the pass serveral years now. I not sure what we haven't done in the bedroom yet. We shall see some time soon lol.
      When out driving always turn left. Then, should you become lost, you can find your way home by reversing the procedure and always turning right.

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      • amy40
        Veteran Member
        • Nov 2016
        • 2732

        missed this thread
        birthdays are definitely the time to ask for something you would like

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        • WaveRider
          Veteran Member
          • Mar 2017
          • 701

          Happy Birthday, Muffin70,

          I hope you get the blow job of your life.

          I have run across many men who rarely get sex from their wives. It is very sad and tragic. Women wonder why their boyfriends or husbands stray or run to prostitutes. They refuse to believe that they have created problems that caused them anguish. I know a woman who told me that she used to withhold sex from her husband as punishment. She learned the wrong way what a fool she was. He put up with her game until he had had enough. Then he took to paying for sex until he found a g/f. My friend tried desperately to save her marriage. It was way beyond too late. He wasn't going back to childish punishment. I told my friend, who was in her early 30's at the time, that it's always a bad idea to punish men by withholding sex. She knew it was wrong when she did it, and her prior knowledge was confirmed when he wanted nothing more to do with her. They divorced immediately.

          I've been very lucky when it comes to relationships. I'd always managed to find women who love sex. Every one but one loved to give head. More than one has told me that giving head made them extremely horny because they had the essence of a man within their mouths and controlled the outcome.

          The very first sex act of the woman I'm now seeing was giving head to a kid while they were in high school. She hasn't stopped giving head. Sometimes I'll have to pry me outta her mouth lest I cum too early. BTW, she does not like the taste of cum. Some is worse than others but none of it tastes good to her. But she'll swallow. What that tells me is that she'll swallow cum when she'd rather not if it turned on a dude with whom she was having sex. I used to let her swallow when she wanted. Now I know that I'm good for once an evening, sometimes two. So I can't cum in her mouth because I know that after she cums for the third time, she wants me inside of her. Then she's good for at least three more orgasms.

          She told me that nothing makes cum taste good. None of magazine tricks work. She did say that dudes who do drugs, smoke dope, cigarettes, hard liquor, and prescriptions can cause cum to taste awful. She swallowed anyway, which means she'll go beyond the call of duty to please a man. I've heard coffee adversely affects the taste of cum.

          In my entire life, I've had only one g/f who didn't give head. She was otherwise horny.

          I'm at the point in my life where head ain't that important. I'd rather have rough, hard, hair-pulling sex with my best friend than cum in her mouth.

          I've been exposed to the theory that we send subliminal messages to the opposite sex that reveal compatibility. It might be true. I look for body language and listen to verbal language. I've had a lot of first night sex. Three turned out to become very long term relationships. The others were never going to be relationships. The last first nighter all but told me on our first date that she loves sex. I'm going that she verbalized subliminal messages that were actively communicating between us. After dinner, we banged our brains out. We both knew of the intense connection between us. And she gives excellent head.

          Sexless relationships are dysfunctional unless illness prevents sex. In defense of women who don't like sex, I'll go that without exception, women who don't like sex have never had mystical sex that they wished never ended. Their boyfriends or husbands are almost always causal of bad sex. My guess is that too many women don't know how to make their wives or girlfriends cum. They need to ask and accept direction. That's how I learned. I was young. She knew more than me. She taught me to become the best lover she's ever had. In contrast, my girlfriend's ex-husband didn't have a clue of how to make her cum. He used to frustrate her to the point she avoided having sex with him. I began dating my g/f when she was in her 40's. No one had oral sexed her to orgasm before, not ever her ex-husband. Once she had it, she was devoted to it. It's by a huge margin her preferred method of orgasm.

          Muffin70, in no way does any of this relate to you. But I'd suggest your having a sex talk with your wife. If she doesn't like giving head, find out why. It might be that she's had a bad experience with it. Or it might relate to an illusory fallacy of it (only bad girls give head). This is just a guess: college educated women are more likely to give head than women who've never gone beyond high school. I've dated a doctor who had constantly wanted me in her mouth. Who was I to deny doctor's orders?

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          • Texasred
            Veteran Member
            • Oct 2009
            • 1216

            Birthday sex is fine, but I'd really like it more than just once a year...

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            • amy40
              Veteran Member
              • Nov 2016
              • 2732

              Originally posted by Texasred
              Birthday sex is fine, but I'd really like it more than just once a year...
              Texaxred
              you are hilarious

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              • WaveRider
                Veteran Member
                • Mar 2017
                • 701

                Every sexual experience should be better than the preceding one.

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                • jns
                  Assistant Admin
                  • Mar 2010
                  • 8398

                  Originally posted by WaveRider
                  Every sexual experience should be better than the preceding one.
                  I would say that every sexual experience should be gratifying and occasionally new highs should be reached.
                  I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
                  ...
                  Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

                  From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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