[Kaylap51]

Hello,

I have always had problems being able to orgasm with a partner. I've been with my boyfriend for a couple months, and we live together because we are a great couple, and we love each other a lot. The only problem is, I seem to have female "death grip". I am 19 and have been masturbating by rubbing a blanket on my clit since I was less than 1 year old. I would sometimes do this multiple times a day, especially when I was 17-18. I have also been able to cum using both of my hands and pressure, but that's about it. I've ran into the problem of not being able to cum with my boyfriend touching me, even though it feels better than when I masturbate. Sometimes when he touches me or clothes humps me, I feel like I'm on the edge the entire time, but I can't seem to go over the edge and orgasm. The feeling usually just goes away after some time, and I have no clue why. I usually close my eyes, and focus as much as I can on what he's doing or I fantasize. Even with this, the feeling just goes away after a while. I've told him and showed him how I masturbate, and he is pretty good at replicating it, but with no results. I don't think it is a mental thing, because I am always relaxed, and I just think about how much I enjoy the sensation instead of thinking about cumming. We have tried just about everything that is free so far. I haven't been masturbating in over a month now, but nothing has changed except that my sex is very low. We even took a 1 week break from sex and him touching me, with no results. I don't get much out of vaginal sex, like most women, and oral sex is out of the question because neither of us like giving it. I am very frustrated because I don't know what to do. I feel like I have ruined my chances of ever cumming with a partner, and my boyfriend feels bad about it. Please, if anyone has any tips or suggestions, I would really appreciate it!!!

Thank you!

[jns]

Welcome to WH!

Try to distract yourself as you approach climax. Feel the sensation and think about nothing.

Ride the waves. I would also suggest that he create waves by bringing you up and then backing off but not stopping. A little bit of teasing other areas such as kissing and caressing your inner thighs, your stomach, your breasts, your neck, your lips, etc. when backing off. Then go at it again. Do this a few times to build up the sexual tension. When he keeps going at it without a break, fatigue of the sensation will set in.

Every woman is different, so no guarantees that this will work for you. Good luck.

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[nightimeponyo]

Try petting instead. Make him sit on the bed with his back touching the wall or the bedhead for support. Sit above him and rub your clit against his penis. Ask him to grope. suck, and lick your breasts and sometimes french kissing your lips. Take control of the pace and movement, either it's up and down or circling your clit against him. Close your eyes and fantasize. You'll be able to reach climax this way since you know exactly how to move your body.