Hello, this may sound really strange but I feel
reslly sad after I have sex and feel like I hate myself and it's such a horrible feeling. I have been with my partner for 6 years and we have a child. I don't have a sex drive at all. But even if/when I do, I still feel sad after sex. I don't always enjoy sex. Sometimes I do but more often not. Or I enjoy the first 5 minutes and then after that I can't wait for it to end. There has been a few occasions I have just said 'stop' because I was not enjoying it at all. I am not going to force myself to feel like that.
We planned to get pregnant and I enjoyed it back then. It tool nearly 2 years to get pregnant so there was a lot of sex! But I just don't/can't enjoy it as much now. It's the feeling after I dislike the most. I feel so sad and almost depressed I suppose. I sort of feel guilty but unsure why. It's so strange and I really want to get to the bottom of it.
I have had bad experiences in the past. My ex used me and cheated on me and I was sexually abused 10 years ago. This still bothers me a lot and I have trouble sleeping etc... but I've seen a counsellor but nothing helps. Nothing will ever heal the pain and trauma. It will always haunt me. No counselling sessions or medication will make it go away. I find it so hard to talk about it verbally. Makes me feel disgusting.
I am very comfortable with my partner, I love him and do find him sexually attractive. I feel bad because he wants sex and I always use to make up excuses where as now I just say "no, I don't want to" but it must bother him. He has asked me if I am cheating and I can't blame him for wondering. I was honest and said no! I explained I just don't feel up to it lately and it's nothing to do with him.
Am I weird? Is it my past causing this horrible feeling? Is it depression?
reslly sad after I have sex and feel like I hate myself and it's such a horrible feeling. I have been with my partner for 6 years and we have a child. I don't have a sex drive at all. But even if/when I do, I still feel sad after sex. I don't always enjoy sex. Sometimes I do but more often not. Or I enjoy the first 5 minutes and then after that I can't wait for it to end. There has been a few occasions I have just said 'stop' because I was not enjoying it at all. I am not going to force myself to feel like that.
We planned to get pregnant and I enjoyed it back then. It tool nearly 2 years to get pregnant so there was a lot of sex! But I just don't/can't enjoy it as much now. It's the feeling after I dislike the most. I feel so sad and almost depressed I suppose. I sort of feel guilty but unsure why. It's so strange and I really want to get to the bottom of it.
I have had bad experiences in the past. My ex used me and cheated on me and I was sexually abused 10 years ago. This still bothers me a lot and I have trouble sleeping etc... but I've seen a counsellor but nothing helps. Nothing will ever heal the pain and trauma. It will always haunt me. No counselling sessions or medication will make it go away. I find it so hard to talk about it verbally. Makes me feel disgusting.
I am very comfortable with my partner, I love him and do find him sexually attractive. I feel bad because he wants sex and I always use to make up excuses where as now I just say "no, I don't want to" but it must bother him. He has asked me if I am cheating and I can't blame him for wondering. I was honest and said no! I explained I just don't feel up to it lately and it's nothing to do with him.
Am I weird? Is it my past causing this horrible feeling? Is it depression?
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