[deep-evie]

Women on this forum have confirmed what my g/f has told me: women don't like condoms.

*Romy: I'm a a stage in life where I'd rather go blood test before sex with a new partner.

*deep-evie: my g/f is an anal sexpert although we've never done it. She hates condoms. I asked her if any of her anal sex dudes wore 'em due to fecal matter. Nope. No anal sex condoms for her. But she did tell me that she always assured that she had pooped before she'd allow a dude to have anal sex with her. After I have a finger deep inside of her butt, I'll always thoroughly wash my hands immediately after my finger's free & clear of where it had been. No poop on my finger.

My g/f was incredulous when I told her that I've never had anal sex. I don't have a phobia of it. It was merely that a mouth and vajayjay were all I needed. She told me that most of her college sorority sisters were doing anal sex. She has told me that most of her adult friends do anal sex. Maybe if I knew I'd be good for more than once, I'd let her take my anal sex virginity. But anal sex ain't something that excites me like blow jobs and banging does. And after she's done cumming, she wants to be full contact banged. Then she'll rest for a while and want to cum more. I've never been with a woman with a sex drive like she has. Her sex drive could win the Indy 500, and she wouldn't need a Formula One car to hit the checkered flag.

Most guys are like that, but, most guys have never experienced anal sex at normal sex pace or fast paced. Thats where i think the feel gets amazing for the guys, unfortunatly there isn't many girls who can take it in the dirt track at full speed sex pace. i can most prefer it to normal sex, but if its slow paced tbh they thought it sucked a bit.

[Jessa1998]

I hate condoms with a passion.... they ruin sex in so many ways!!! I've taken alot of risks I know but its also impossible for me to stop having sex and apparently impossible for me to be monogamous. Also my few anal experiences were w/out condoms and I know what evie is saying about the dirty feeling.... condoms ruin that too.

[deep-evie]

I hate condoms with a passion.... they ruin sex in so many ways!!! I've taken alot of risks I know but its also impossible for me to stop having sex and apparently impossible for me to be monogamous. Also my few anal experiences were w/out condoms and I know what evie is saying about the dirty feeling.... condoms ruin that too.

Oh you are a girl after my own heart, yes anal is only good without a condom, and to be honest, if i give a man my ******* i want him to feel it to its best, like "this is my rectum, feel it! no, nonono dont cum!" do love a bit of anal though

[DreamP346]

Hi DreamP346 , since you were a sex educator, you should be able to point me to good statistics on the percentage of women who ovulate on each day after the start of their period.

I combed through my Human Reproductive Biology textbook. Although I couldn't find exactly what you are looking for, maybe this will help you:

"To use the calendar method, a woman should keep track of her cycle lengths for at least a year. Then, 18 days are subtracted from the shortest cycle recorded and 11 days from the longest cycle recorded. Thus the fertile period is defined. For example, suppose a woman, after recording her cycle length for a year, had a longest cycle of 35 days and a shortest cycle of 25 days. Her possible fertile period then would be from days 7 to 24 of her cycle."

According to the text book, fertilization of the egg can happen up to 6 days after ejaculation and in a typical 25-day cycle, a woman will ovulate 6 days after the menstrual phase.

[amy40]

we attended NFP classes before we got married, and my charts do vary occasionally
it also takes dedication: taking temps, mucus collecting, wet vs dry days, and checking the opening of the cervix

even more dedication for the days you want to do it but can't (if avoiding pregnancy)

[jns]

According to the text book, fertilization of the egg can happen up to 6 days after ejaculation and in a typical 25-day cycle, a woman will ovulate 6 days after the menstrual phase.

Sometimes the way these things are said in sources makes me less confident that they are backed by scientific studies. The sixth day after ejaculation does not seem to be supported by studies. I suppose in extremely rare cases it could happen. The best study I have seen, which would take a long time to find so I could cite it verbatim, indicated the chance of getting pregnant on each day after sex, including day zero, the day of having sex. By the fifth day, the chance of getting pregnant was almost zero. A study I found that was published in the NEJM on December 7, 1995 also supports most of that, except that day five prior to ovulation was a day that conception was possible. Search for [Timing of sexual intercourse in relation to ovulation. Effects on the probability of conception, survival of the pregnancy, and sex of the baby.] Its biggest problem is in the scale of the study, which wasn't large enough to smooth out the results properly. I would prefer results from a study 100 times larger, all else being equal. For use in trying to conceive, studies such as in the NEJM one indicate sex on an every other day or every third day is probably the best, giving sufficient time for sperm potential to recover.

[amy40]

I have 65 saved monthly charts in my file
and I have the original teaching chart we were given during the class

dry day (if any) occur after menstruation and the dry days are considered infertile days

fertile days are days where there is the development of mucus pattern (mucus prolongs life of sperm cells)
the last day of mucus is the PEAK day, then days 1, 2, 3 after peak day are still fertile days

infertility begins on the 4 th day after the peak day

[amy40]

looking at my charts from learning the method (when baby stickers were used)
my potential "baby" days ranged from 7 days to 12 days out of the month

that's number of days potentially could get pregnant
not saying my days were day 7 through day 12 of cycle

[amy40]

another page says coitus up to and including day 6 provided:

1)there has been a thermal shift in preceding cycle (meaning bleeding was a true menses and not breakthrough bleeding)
2) the women hasn't had a previous cycle of 22 days or less
3) there is still no detectable mucus on day 6

if cycles are 23-25 days, the cutoff should be day 5

[amy40]

also, if anyone does want to do NFP, if I remember correctly, we had 3 days of classes
men and women in class as men need to take part, understand the method, and they are usually the temperature recorders

it's important to learn correctly, if you want to avoid pregnancy

btw, the just counting method (without mucus, temperature recording) does not work
just ask my mom