How common are threesomes?

[a_dub]

Has anyone here had a threesome? How common are they in real life? How was the experience, if you have had it? Have you done it more than once?

[atskitty2]

Have had opportunities, never done it. No regrets.

[a_dub]

Have had opportunities, never done it. No regrets.

Where and how do these "opportunities" arise? Is there a codeword people use when they want to indicate to a couple they'd be down for a 3way?

[amy40]

guessing fraternity parties

[atskitty2]

The first time I had an opportunity, it was a sort of odd thing, as I worked with the guy, and had been talking and flirting with him for a while. I was in my 20's and rather naive. He suggested we get together with another girl in the office that he was talking to. We all agreed but a place and time never came, so it never happened. I'm not sure if they ever hooked up or not, but we never did.

Another opportunity came up with a friend.

I admit that I was not that into it in the first place. I think had I been more eager and pushed, it would have happened.

It's never been on my bucket list.

[WaveRider]

I know of a lot of friends and buddies who've done threesomes. I've never done one. I do think that they're more common than research indicates.

I can't write for sure that my g/f has done a threesome, but she has intimated as much when she has talked about her sorority party days. She used to being up threesomes a lot during sex, but she hasn't in a while. Some time ago, she asked me to bring a friend the next time we had sex. I didn't. She wanted a threesome with me and another dude. But I think she'd do a threesome with her & another woman.

When I dirty talk her about bringing two huge packaged dudes into our bed to work her, she'll become drenched and wildly horny.

[amy40]

I can't write for sure that my g/f has done a threesome

waverider, as much as you two talk about sex, in all these years, she would have told you, and you'd know if
2 males or 2 females

[WaveRider]

Hi amy40,

That ain't how it works. I've never asked her about her sexual history except to clarify what she's told me; e.g., when she first asked me if I wanted to have anal sex with her, she was incredulous that I had never had it. Form there she explained anal sex to me; e.g., silicon lubricant. I asked her if dudes used condoms during anal sex with her (I was thinking of fecal matter on a dude's main package component). She said she did not like condoms & would never used them again. From there I learned about her brief experiment with the pill, and that she relied upon withdrawal. She loves cum. I'm guessing that she acquired that fetish from boyfriends cumming on her instead of inside of her. Anyway, she has told me that she has fantasizes about being cover with cum.

While she will mentioned a guy she used to date for a reason; e.g., his dad had a unique job, and he used to allow them sleep together when they spent they night at his parents' home, there are just a few dudes that she'll talk graphically about, one being one of her first boyfriends with whom she sexually blossomed. Depending upon how lit she is, she'll become very graphic, which was how I learned that he was the first to have anal sex with her and that he wanted it a lot. She told me that she had allowed him to do anything sexually to her. That's because she thought that she was in love with him. She later learned that who she thought he was was not who he really was.

She'll talk about how weird her ex-husband was when it came to sex, and how he demeaned her. But when she talks about sex with him it's almost always to exemplify a symptom of his weird personality.

She's a latent exhibitionist. She told me that she had sex while she was in college in a dorm room while another couple was in the same dorm room having sex. She said that having sex with whomever that boyfriend was while another dude was watching her really turned her on, especially when he checked out her solid 10 hardbody that she had in college. From there I learned that she loves being naked around men because she knows the power her naked body has over men. She has told me one of her fantasies is to be watched while having sex. She has also told me that another one of her fantasies is a threesome with two dudes. She has asked me if I could figure out a way we could have sex while other men watched. I haven't fulfilled that fantasy. She has asked if I could bring a male friend for a threesome. I haven't fulfilled that one either. But I will work her fantasies while we're having sex. She has a thing for black dudes. (BTW, I've recently read research from Rutgers University that indicated that 87% of white women want to have sex with black men.) Were I to bring a black dude home for her, she'd love me forever.

When we first started dating, we were in bed. She was lit, I has getting there. She asked me my feelings about interracial relationships. I told her that whom people decide to date is there business & no one selse business. From there she told of her two black college boyfriends who used to bang the heck outta her in her dorm room.

If she doesn't mention it, I don't ask. If she wants to talk, I'll listen. I've never, ever judged her for her sexual history. In fact, I've told her many times that she's very lucky that she has had fulfilling sexual experiences. She knows she can trust me with anything she wants to tell me. I will never violate that trust. This isn't a violation because we're all anonymous here.

The ONLY times she becomes graphic is when she's lit. She is more reticent about talking sex when she's sober.

Years ago, I took a woman to a very expensive resort for a weekend. I had known her for a while beforehand. On the way she told me that her ex-boyfriend was an intravenous drug abuser. I was glad she told me before we got to the resort because I would have sex with her. I didn't. I wasn't going to risk a potentially fatal disease for sex. If I think I should ask for STD reasons, I will. Everyone should. Otherwise I won't ask about a woman's sexual history. Whom a woman might have done and how many dudes she might have done is none of my business. It's my business what she does if we're in a committed relationship.

[Texasred]

I'd think they would be more common among people who know race other casually than with couples who are in a relationship; there's *always* going to be that jealousy thing.
- TR

[WaveRider]

Hi Texasred,

I think you're right. In fact, I think that they are more common than stats indicate. Lots of sex research is skewed because women are reluctant to be honest about sex related questions. Now that most sex acts no longer carry stigma of taboo, women are becoming more honest. For instance, the pronounced increase in couples doing anal sex might not be a recent phenomenon. It could be due to women becoming more open about their sexuality.

I can't tell you how many people I know who swing that I would not have suspected. Most if not all of the people I know who swing are professionals. Women I know who swing have told me that they've loved it.

Threesomes are a very common female fantasy. My g/f used to fantasize a lot about doing two dudes in a threesome. When I dirty talk her during sex about another dude banging her brains out, she becomes drenched. If an opportunity arose that were conducive, there's no doubt in my mind that my g/f would do a threesome with two dudes. I'm reasonable certain that she'd do a threesome with another woman, but she'd be in it for her carnal pleasure.

She has told me that she wants to make me watch another dude porn star her. After he's done working her, then she'd allow me to join. She loves being watched. I think the part of another dude working her is the part of her being watched while she's being porn starred.