[kay0009]

I never know what to say! Lol, I feel comfortable in my skin, but when it comes to being sexy, I'm more awkward than sexy. I don't know what to say in terms of dirty talk (I always feel like I'm going to say something stupid), or how to express myself during the act itself. I stress about this so much that I can't actually enjoy having sex, I'm too worried about saying something that turns him off.

[gerimancht]

Ｄo not worry about it ,relax and relax~~! sexy is the great gift the GOD give to every one , enjoy it and share it !

[gerimancht]

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I think A dildo or vibrator is a great gift for friends and lovers alike. In word ,So Many girls and women are too ashamed or uneducated to ever go out of the way to buy themselves a dildo.
I received a vibrator as a gift from a friend when I was 17 years old and it was a great introduction to self-exploration. If I had not received the vibrator gift , may not have ever learned to appreciate masturbation.We are sexual beings. Explore! If you like vibrator -woman ,just try ,enjoy this gift ,Really ! I wasn't even that close with the guy who gave it to me but I still like it none the less. A dildo or vibrator is a great gift for any female. If they can't appreciate it or think its weird then they need it even more. Sexuality shouldn't be something we hide as if it is a sin.

[jns]

I never know what to say! Lol, I feel comfortable in my skin, but when it comes to being sexy, I'm more awkward than sexy. I don't know what to say in terms of dirty talk (I always feel like I'm going to say something stupid), or how to express myself during the act itself. I stress about this so much that I can't actually enjoy having sex, I'm too worried about saying something that turns him off.

If you have sex with someone you really like and the feeling is mutual, words will naturally flow, whether it is about sex or about any other subject.

[cathygirl]

I used to be shy in the same way. I took a human sexuality class in college and one of the first exercises was the whole class had to name all the slang terms we could think of for male and female genitals. It broke the ice and turned into a real hoot because we all lost that shyness about talking about sex or using words we always though of as "dirty". It took a little while, but my husband and I get very aroused at the dirtiest filthiest kind of talk. Words that are considered the filthiest words in the English language flow from our lips and turn us both on. But it does take repetition to get comfortable with that. Start slowly, tell him something you want him to do in very graphic (perhaps nasty?) language and see how he reacts. My guess is that he'll be shocked at first and then very turned on to know how you feel. Most men (I'm guessing) will respond positively to "I want you to do such-and-such to my blankty-blank" but the first step can be the hardest.

[kay0009]

I used to be shy in the same way. I took a human sexuality class in college and one of the first exercises was the whole class had to name all the slang terms we could think of for male and female genitals. It broke the ice and turned into a real hoot because we all lost that shyness about talking about sex or using words we always though of as "dirty". It took a little while, but my husband and I get very aroused at the dirtiest filthiest kind of talk. Words that are considered the filthiest words in the English language flow from our lips and turn us both on. But it does take repetition to get comfortable with that. Start slowly, tell him something you want him to do in very graphic (perhaps nasty?) language and see how he reacts. My guess is that he'll be shocked at first and then very turned on to know how you feel. Most men (I'm guessing) will respond positively to "I want you to do such-and-such to my blankty-blank" but the first step can be the hardest.

Thanks Cathy! That's great advice, and a good exercise.
I also bought a sex game from Indigo a few months ago, it has a series of 5 or 6 different games with cards on them and it's designed to get us out of our comfort zone. I would like to give it a try, but feel a bit nervous, because like I say, I feel more awkward/goofy than I do sexy, but maybe practicing by reading the cards out loud to myself would help.

[WaveRider]

Hi Kay,

If he's in to you, you'll always be good regardless of your sex talk.

I've found that women love graphic, dirty sex talk. Her vernacular is a pronounced contrast during sex that out of a bedroom.