[a_dub]

I have read that the majority of women - something like 70% - can only achieve orgasm via clitoral stimulation. I am curious to know how accurate that statistic is and if there are confounding variables at play for why that may be true. How many women here have ever had a vaginal or g spot orgasm? How many can attain it regularly? Is it more to do with the comfort level with a particular partner or the skills of the man? Have you ever had men who couldn't bring you to orgasm at all?

In particular, I think it would help men so they don't feel like duds if they aren't able to get their partner to orgasm every single time with their penis alone.

[deep-evie]

Honestly? guys don't like hearing this but il say it, its hard to orgasm with only gspot to ******** action. and, size...IS important here, for a couple doing a lot of clit work etc, size doesnt matter....MUCH. It always does a tiny bit, differs for each woman HOW it matters, but it tends to.

With a 5-6" penis is really a titanic struggle for me to orgasm through sex only, speed is definitely the key, and endurance from the guy, in fact, its ALWAYS important, you want to last 5-15 mins really at least for intercourse only orgasm. sometimes i get near but can never go over the fence if you get what i mean. Trick for men this size range... play with thier clit until they cum, do it a few times, after a couple of times they are sensitive, get them close as you can, then in the same move, stop and slide your member in and hammer away hard and very very fast, hopefully they are stimulated enough to topple over the edge, this is necessary for girls who struggle orgasming with yours. nearer 5" or under.. please hammer them as fast and hard as you can, you wont wreck them nor i doubt will your hit the end of most girls (sorry!!!), they can likely take it, and might need it to finish, id definitely advise the clit play to sex trick.

6-7.5", really to be fair if its just over average thickness, and you can make the girl orgasm, its either your technique or stamina that needs work, id safely say the 7"-7.5" length is the perfect size for 90% of women.

7.5"+, same as above really, or if your too thick watch out for tears, use more lube, with more lube most girls prefer this size, without lube, they might hate it... I love it personally. but if your over 7.5 especially, do a few guide thrusts, ask your partner if it hurts when you get all the way in, if so, do half to 70% length thrusts at a faster speed, maybe nearer all of it, at this length its about knowing your patners limits.

One thing girls and guys alike have to realise... some guys blow in 1 min other 20 mins... the equivilent of the 1 min guy.. is a 5 min woman, i do feel for guys sometimes, our parts seem to be designed to stretch to 7-8" long and we tend to have more stamina than guys, the average vagina is more suited for larger than average men with stamina. nothing we can do about that, hence all of these needed workarounds like clit stimulation. wish we could change this but we can;t, most the time that 30% of women can't achieve orgasm... because they are the female = of the 20min+ man, i.e. they probably need 30 mins-1 hr of constant action to get them there. At least thinking realistically knowing the anatomy, thts how i see it.

[Healthybeen]

If your man can't help you achieve orgasm then he has not tried these steps with her partner, teach him this.

[Romy]

I have always been able to orgasm when on top - does that count as penetration? I'm not sure because basically I'm rubbing myself against his pubic bone. I have been with men (long term) who I have never orgasmed with through penetration and always use a vibrator to finish off. I think lots comes down to the connection you have with each other and how confident the woman is (meaning happy to let herself relax and let go and comfortable with her body and trust - without these things orgasming is going to be hard as she'll be thinking about them).

More time should be spent on foreplay and giving her oral sex as well.

Some of the best sex I ever had was with a guy who was bigger than average so there's something to be said for size.

[jns]

I have always been able to orgasm when on top - does that count as penetration? I'm not sure because basically I'm rubbing myself against his pubic bone. I have been with men (long term) who I have never orgasmed with through penetration and always use a vibrator to finish off. I think lots comes down to the connection you have with each other and how confident the woman is (meaning happy to let herself relax and let go and comfortable with her body and trust - without these things orgasming is going to be hard as she'll be thinking about them).

The penetration added to the sex, so it still counts.

[cathygirl]

I often masturbate while he's pumping me, so orgasm during penetration is no problem ;-) But yes, clitoris stimulation is a requirement for me. Either he does it or I do it. Not a problem in any way...

[amy40]

don't think men need to be responsible for women's O's