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  • WaveRider
    Veteran Member
    • Mar 2017
    • 701

    If it doesn't bother you, who cares? If it does, it might be wise to bring it up while your dining at a restaurant that provides privacy.

    It wouldn't bother me. In fact, I bought my g/f vibrators. I wouldn't care if she masturbates a dozen times a day as long as she takes care of me.

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    • Claret
      Assistant Admin
      • Jan 2011
      • 1823


      actually I think it very normal. It's pleasurable both prior to and following sex. It may have started when she was very young - why?? -- usually just because it felt good. As other have said it's a soothing habit much like someone sucking their thumb or stroking their hair. Don't make a big deal of it, maybe sometimes take over for her with no other expectation other than to make her feel good or comforted.
      That which we forget may as well never really happened.

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      • deep-evie
        Member
        • Sep 2017
        • 51

        Originally posted by ANONYMOUS47
        im 33 and she is 31 we have been together over 12 years and have a great sex life we have sex at least once sometimes twice a day and she asks me for sex and even asks me to go down on her and is alot more confident and risk at places to have sex than i am but ive woken up during and found her fingering herself and playing with her boobs while im pretending to still be asleep is this normal for here to do i dont want to ask here about it as she got embarrased last time when i caught her playing with herself out the corner of my eye while we were having a movie night so dont really want to confront her yet please help
        She probably enjoys the feeling of masturbating, or it could be that she turns herself on, does she think highly of herself body wise? i wouldn't look too much into it regardless, unless shes grabbing dildos bigger than you etc, then worry a little. But if its clitoris play she might like the feeling of a clitoris stimulated orgasm. Perhaps make a suggestion to her on how it could be more intense. like slide your member inside and leave it there as she does her thing to enhance her feeling a bit (it makes masturbation much more intense and special, she could help you get off after or pose as you do it to yourself), or offer to do it for her so she can relax.

        Sex and masturbation are different things for BOYS AND GIRLS, it doesnt need to be one or the other, you can have both. It might be her sex drive is more than you thought? perhaps if you do talk about it, instead of asking why, say to her she is free to do it as much as she likes and not be embarrassed, tell her you find it sexy (i bet you do don't you hehe), offer her your rod as a toy to use during this (not like sex, more like a plug, unless she leads it into sex).

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        • WaveRider
          Veteran Member
          • Mar 2017
          • 701

          Originally posted by Claret
          actually I think it very normal. It's pleasurable both prior to and following sex. It may have started when she was very young - why?? -- usually just because it felt good. As other have said it's a soothing habit much like someone sucking their thumb or stroking their hair. Don't make a big deal of it, maybe sometimes take over for her with no other expectation other than to make her feel good or comforted.
          ^^^This is an excellent post that contains superb advice^^^

          While I haven't a clue, I'd bet that most women masturbate regularly.

          My g/f began masturbating when she hit puberty. She'll rub one out even if she knows she'll be seeing me later in the day. She's masturbated in front of me a zillion times. She knows it arouses me.

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          • Texasred
            Veteran Member
            • Oct 2009
            • 1216

            Originally posted by ANONYMOUS47
            im 33 and she is 31 we have been together over 12 years and have a great sex life we have sex at least once sometimes twice a day and she asks me for sex and even asks me to go down on her and is alot more confident and risk at places to have sex than i am but ive woken up during and found her fingering herself and playing with her boobs while im pretending to still be asleep is this normal for here to do i dont want to ask here about it as she got embarrased last time when i caught her playing with herself out the corner of my eye while we were having a movie night so dont really want to confront her yet please help
            Maybe she is just horny but doesn't want to wake you.
            Next time this happens, don't ask her about it, just join in: say something like, "I'd love to help you with that," or "Let me do that for you." It can be great fun. Trust me, she'll only be a little embarrassed the first time.

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