[amy40]

My wife certainly seems to enjoy sex, on occasion, but those "occasions" are far too rare.

could write that sentence
but I love him....what can I say

[Who knows..]

In my opinion, I think that in general, men have a higher sex drive than woman. Sex with my previous partner was brilliant and very regular and experimental

just a shame my wife isn't as up for it

[Texasred]

Amy, i understand - I think. And i may have to re-evaluate and rethink things in light of recent events... But doesn't your husband think that physical intimacy is an important part of a loving relationship? I mean, it's called "lovemaking" for a reason.

Who knows, i disagree that men have a higher sex drive than women: i know a woman who just turned 60 who wants sex every day, would be happy with having sex multiple times a day, and has been this way her whole life! If a man told me that, I'd call him a liar, but I know that it's true for her.
What i can't understand is why the high sex-drive men end up with the low-sex-drive women, and vice-versa. I guess when high-sex-drive men and women find each other, those are the people you see who always seem to be smiling!
:-)

[amy40]

.. But doesn't your husband think that physical intimacy is an important part of a loving relationship?
:-)

changed when we became parents and because he's such an involved parent, just less time and he's more tired
but he did say he might be able to leave work early one day this wk so it'll give us time before kid needs picked up at school (yeah)

[amy40]

those are the people you see who always seem to be smiling!
:-)

the only people I see always smiling in our neighborhood are the retired couples!
the kids are out of the house, and they got all the free time to do whatever

everyone else looks way more stressed than us as they all have more kids than us

[amy40]

. And i may have to re-evaluate and rethink things in light of recent events...
:-)

what does that mean?
are you and the wife getting along better?

[atskitty2]

I do think people cheat, very often, for reasons other than sexual gratification.

[Texasred]

but he did say he might be able to leave work early one day this wk so it'll give us time before kid needs picked up at school (yeah)

That sounds promising! I hope you can make the most of it! :-)
You can be an involved parent AND be an involved spouse, you *need* to be an involved spouse.

[Texasred]

what does that mean?
are you and the wife getting along better?

It seems that we are, at least when we're at her house in New Orleans, as we are now. It may be too soon to get my hopes up, but she actually initiated sex two days ago, then again yesterday morning, then last night when I came to bed and put my arm around her, she asked me, "Would you like to go again?"
I'm beginning to wonder if she traded places with a twin sister I never knew about! :-)
I just have no idea what's caused this change - or if I'm going to wake up and find I dreamed it all! (Oh please, not one of *those* dreams!)

[Texasred]

I do think people cheat, very often, for reasons other than sexual gratification.

That's true; I think it's more often the validation, the wanting to know that someone finds you attractive, desirable, sexy... It's not the sex itself, or maybe not initially, so much as it is the feeling of being wanted and the knowing that you can excite someone, please someone. Sometimes it doesn't need the act of joining your bodies - just a touch or a kiss is enough.