[j.rose]

This is a question for both men and women. What is your best turn on? Is it oral, size, the way a man/women kisses, kinky sex, or love making. What would you change in your sexual relationship if you could. More oral, bigger penis, a kinkier partner, more action less talk. How many couples feel satisfied in their sexual relationship?

[miffed23]

Biggest turn on before intercourse - kissing. I lurve kissing, it tells a story...it is,in my opinion, a good indication to how he/she is going to be in bed.

Biggest turn on during the sexual act - role play or dressing up, you cant beat a bit of blindfolding too.

My last relationship was incredibly unsatisfying, so i would want more of everything, especially oral.

[LadyLane]

Well I have had a very rocky road the last two years with sex, so what I choose to say is that when we have it, it's scorching.

Kissing has always, always been my downfall. No matter how old I get I still mentally replay my best kisses and reorganize my list of best kissers from my past. I can kiss for hours and do absolutely nothing else. I have to say the one thing I think that marriage robs me of is that lustful first-kiss feeling. We do some hot kissing, but its old hat and predictable. So I miss the newness of kissing.

We're "tri-sexuals" to quote Samantha from Sex in the City - we'll try anything the other wants, and usually a few times, in case we like something the second time we didn't like the first.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Curious?

Why is this question different than what you like about breast?

Would the above be discussed with a doctor?

[j.rose]

I am interested in ideas from other people. I have a good relationship with my husband but he thinks that sex with the same person is boring

after a couple of years so we introduced swinging. I like it sometimes but sometimes I don't think I know what I want half the time. I have been

more satisfied with him than anyone else and my hearts with him and I think he doesn't know what true physical satisfaction means for himself. I would like to try new things with him but I get nervous because I don't know if he will try them. Thanks

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I am interested in ideas from other people. I have a good relationship with my husband but he thinks that sex with the same person is boring

after a couple of years so we introduced swinging. I like it sometimes but sometimes I don't think I know what I want half the time. I have been

more satisfied with him than anyone else and my hearts with him and I think he doesn't know what true physical satisfaction means for himself. I would like to try new things with him but I get nervous because I don't know if he will try them. Thanks

I noted that you said " he thinks", so "we introduced"... Some new excitement for sure i think can be fun but sounds like your doing this more for him than you, a way of him " finding?" and you get confused whether it's a good idea therefore, or whether you prefer him to yourself with added excitment that belongs to just the two of you.

In other words, trying to turn it around back into your "hearts together", with excitement alone...

If he's open to "swinging" he may be open to more than you think, and i would hope that he's not being a tad selfish with " it's boring" just one on one, rather likes to try different things.

Or is that the confusion for you?

Hard i know....

CW

[Uneeklyme]

I love it when I get a naughty text and then we give it a go. Something like Im thinking of you bent over the couch and whimpering while I apply lots of attention to places you cant keep me from. Makes my stomach flop when I get messages like this and gives me something to think about and look forward to while we are apart.

We write emails to each other describing scenerios then play them out.

I like kissing but I am more of a get to it type of person. Love it when he penetrates when I am on the edge of ready then builds me up to ready and over the edge.

Sleep sex is amazing IMO. You know...when you sort of wake up and find that you are tickling and teasing and his body is responding so you go for it. Its surreal. When you wake up the next morning and look at each other and go...did we? What a great dream! heh

Have to say the absolute biggest turn on tho is knowing he wants me in whatever way it happens. Once again, sex is not love but love enhances sex. Knowing he is turned on thinking about me is a real high and thinking about him in my daydreams or fantasies and being able to tell him my fantasies openly...awesome.

On another note. I agree with CW. We might ask our MD about certian physical stimulations or the way the body works but I cant think of any times where any of our patients have come into the office and asked how this felt, or that turned us on...why, or he wants me to swallow but I dont like it any advice...things of this nature. Its difficult to share tips, tricks, advice, and experiences on how to spice up the bedroom without straying from the would you ask your doctor this...

[Ushdui]

Best turn on?

For me, it would have to be biting, mainly on the neck/shoulder area. Having my girlfriend suck on my fingers gives me chills too, for some reason. XD

But I agree with miffed23 also: kissing can be the biggest turn on. 'Specially when it's unexpected, deep and/or somewhat forceful.

Anyways. My two cents.

[Fallen1]

For me the best turn on is just being caressed.

When my boyfriend and I first got together we would lay for hours at night in the dark just talking and him caressing me. How I miss those days.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You just reminded me Fallen1...

He stated that he would stroke my neck for an hour over a glass of wine when we meet.

And, a massage was mentioned in a different conversation, starting at the shoulders and remaining there for a long time until completely relaxed.

Mmmm....

Don't be jealous... it's be a long time between drinks.

CW