My ex-g/f told me when we began dating that she had an elevated testosterone level, which had opposite consequences. Sensations of perpetual desire for sex began at puberty. She became sexually active at 15. She was always horny, which caused her to want more sex. She had actually believed she was a nymphomaniac, a behavioral abnormality. She would routinely engage in risky sex; e.g., doing her high school b/f in her bedroom while her parents were down stairs. When she was 15, her parents left their innocent angel home for about 5 days. As soon as they left she called a high school boy she knew. They spent 5 days in her parents bed. She'd do a b/f between classes while in college. She's always had an elevated libido vis-a-vis her boyfriends. She'd have sex all night. It wasn't until she had a blood work analysis that was ordered by her endocrinologist that she was diagnosed with elevated testosterone. She's slowing now, but she ca still pull off all nighters.
I've always thought that her wild sexual fantasies have evolved from her hyper libido that's caused by elevated testosterone. To this very day, she has a black stud fantasy in which at least one black stud with a huge package uses and abuses her like a per diem porn star. Not too long ago we watched her favorite porn: huge packaged black dudes banging the heck outta Anglo women.
The point is a woman's hormone system can be causal of loss of sexual desire. A wise first move might be to a physician for diagnosis. It might be a treatable condition, which might mean preserving a relationship. The reality is no sex will almost always cause a dude to look for it elsewhere, which will usually cause the end of an otherwise wonderful relationship.
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