[Texasred]

As I recall from a year or two ago, you mentioned your husband had learned new techniques (paraphrasing now). I think you wondered at the time where he learned them?
Maybe this thing with Kiyomi was more than just a single incidence?
And more to the point, maybe you all should be a threesome? Otherwise, I'm sorry to say, you seem just a little hypocritical: YOU want two lovers, but your "husband" can't have that.

[chaya]

I met with Kiyomi at her hotel room. I so much wanted to get back with her but I believe they have been carrying on while I was at work for a long time. I told Kiyomi that I still loved her but she betrayed my trust and lied to me so I can't be with her any more. We were both in tears when I left.

I also met with my husband and told him Kiyomi told me about their affair, he confessed that they had slept together many times over the last 4 years but didn't always have sex. My husband don't consider anything other than intercourse as sex. We decided to do a trial separation for 2 months, then meet and decide if we can ever live together again.

I have tickets for me and my daughter to return to Hawaii, we will live with my parents. My mother and sister assure me this won't be a problem. In case you didn't know, my adopted daughter is also my niece, the child of my youngest sister. I gave my notice at work and told them I might return in a few months but couldn't promise. I will try to get a job in a hospital in Hawaii. I just hope I'm doing the right thing for everybody involved. The happiest years of my life was living with my husband and Kiyomi, I feel like my life is ending.

[jns]

Certainly a phase is ending but not everything. It sounds like you have a good plan to get your thoughts together. Working will help. Who will help out with your adopted daughter?