I've just read,"Women Aren't Having Orgasms. Men Don't know Why. Let's Talk About it". It's dated today (Nov 16 '18) on "Men's Health Website. I'd recommend that all sexually active adults read it.
A huge percentage of men don't know whether their wives/girlfriends orgasm during oral sex. That's a communication problem. Talking about sex will eliminate female orgasm difficulty. The extremely important caveat is to remain nonjudgmental. If a woman trusts a man, she'll feel comfortable telling him anything.
Very early in my last long-term relationship, my then g/f friend told me what worked and what didn't. She told me that only a couple dudes were able to get her off from oral sex. That was shocking considering she has had sex with a lot of partners. She told me that men who had gone down on her frustrated her out of lack of knowledge of what to do, which was cited in the aforementioned article. She told me that I was the first dude with whom she's had sex who could consistently bring her to orgasm with tongue action. It was simple. She told me what she liked & how she liked it. I did what she told me. She could orgasm many times every sex experience from oral sex. And I loved going down on her. There was no mistaking her orgasms. She couldn't fake it. She didn't have to fake it. We had open sex communication. We'd always talk during sex.
If I'm sensing the right vibes, I won't be shy. I'll ask women what they want and how they want it.
Implied in the article was lack of sex communication. If I've dated a woman for a while, I darn well ought to know what she wants. The best way to know what she wants is to ask her. I've never been judgmental about a woman's sexual history. If she wants me to know, she'll tell me. The only exception is if I think I might be at STD risk.
When a woman gets a few drinks or more in her, she'll likely tell you anything and everything if you ask. Don't ask if you cannot accept an answer.
Another aspect of sex that I've learned a long time ago is that sex begins long before getting naked. Tease the heck outta her while your dining or dancing or drinking. Make her crave it before you get inside a bedroom. Many, many times I'd massage my former g/f's thigh and slide my hand between her legs while she was sitting on a bar stool in a darkened & crowded sports bar. Everyone's eyes were on games, not what we were doing. After a few glasses of wine, she'd open her legs to assure I had access to her most sensitive area. Inside a half-hour, she'd want to go home. On the way home, I'd graphically tell her how I was gonna bang her brains out. She'd cum within minutes of my head between her gorgeous thighs.
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