[Raina]

During sex with my SO there are times where I get spooked because I'm unsure of something. Hes a big guy downstairs and I don't think I can take it all (kinda sucks just thinking about that). When he drives himself all the way in he hits something and its a painful pleasure, I can't stand him hitting it but I also want him to hit it more. Any comments?

[someone_like_u]

I think he's probably hitting your cervix. Some girls like it, I happen to find it painful

[Raina]

I think he's probably hitting your cervix. Some girls like it, I happen to find it painful

Yea, we decided to google it and thats what we assumed it was. I'm just worried that it might cause physical damage inside of me. I have come to find that if I am in control and I hit the spot then it doesn't bother me as much, but when hes in control I tend to feel it more. It drives me wild and I wiggle away from him, cant help it. xD

[angelstrawberry]

It shouldn't cause any damage. As long as youre not really sore or its not too painful. I really like deep penetration with the mixture of pleasure and pain.

[cathy23]

Lot's of foreplay and lube really helps., And getting used to a larger size

[purplegirl997]

Yea I know your saying the same thing happens to me. But I really love it for some odd reason.

[Raina]

I had to return to this thread because I was thinking about it even though it was posted a good while back. Lol. Is there anything I can do to (like exercise or something) to help prevent the pain. I don't want to have to say we can't do certain positions because its painful. I was wondering if I was able to do kegal exercises or something along those lines to help it all out?

Note: When we do get it on rough and I let him go at it like he enjoys, Im good for a little bit before it starts hurting and I cant let him have his way for a few days because it feels far too sensitive or bruised to let him.

[Little]

Are you sure he's turning you on sufficiently? Your vagina should elongate when you're aroused - maybe long enough to take his whole penis, maybe not, depending on your anatomy.

Based on the thread you posted in October about how mean he is to you concerning your sex life, I assume you're not as aroused as you could be during sex if he were consistently kind and you were more confident about your sex skills.

[Raina]

Are you sure he's turning you on sufficiently? Your vagina should elongate when you're aroused - maybe long enough to take his whole penis, maybe not, depending on your anatomy.

I did not know this. Sex sometimes was just him all of a sudden needing a quick fix with me not being anywhere near aroused or turned on. >.> That may be the problem. Need a lil foreplay! <3

[NubbinsUp]

Try foreplay and lube. You may have a cervix and nerves around it that are more sensitive than average. Actually, while I have never known a woman who did not like having a penis fill her and press against her cervix at least gently, most women find it painful if he bangs into it repeatedly. Some women are unsatisfied if their partner is too small to ever touch it, not that they can't have orgasms, just that one vaginal sensation or set of sensations important to them is missing. It may be more psychological or physical, the need to feel filled and stretched a bit by a man.

Be glad that you have this sensation, one I have never been able to give a woman partner because I'm very small, and ask him to slow down on the way in as he nears your cervix, until you find the right mix of pain and pleasure that is ideal for both of you. You have to guide and coach him if you want it to be better for you. He should share your interest in making it the best possible experience for you.