[Raina]

Try foreplay and lube. You may have a cervix and nerves around it that are more sensitive than average. Actually, while I have never known a woman who did not like having a penis fill her and press against her cervix at least gently, most women find it painful if he bangs into it repeatedly. Some women are unsatisfied if their partner is too small to ever touch it, not that they can't have orgasms, just that one vaginal sensation or set of sensations important to them is missing. It may be more psychological or physical, the need to feel filled and stretched a bit by a man.

Be glad that you have this sensation, one I have never been able to give a woman partner because I'm very small, and ask him to slow down on the way in as he nears your cervix, until you find the right mix of pain and pleasure that is ideal for both of you. You have to guide and coach him if you want it to be better for you. He should share your interest in making it the best possible experience for you.

I've guided him and put a leash on him a few times when it came to him being in control and dear god, was it heaven for me. Ty for your response Nubbins. <3

[cathy23]

now that my boyfriend and I are apart more, (work schedules), when we do have sex it's kinda' like the first times we were intimate. It hurts but it feels good

[NubbinsUp]

Raina, another thing you may find helpful is this. It may seem strange for men and women friends to share this way, but when one opens up, the other does also, especially if we already like and trust each other and can keep secrets. It may also help once I've confided that I'm small, because a woman will understand that I'm not some macho posturing guy who's going to try to jump her.

A friend of mine told me that her ex-husband was very big downstairs. She loved to hold it, feel it, and play with it, but it always hurt at least a little in her even after 15 years of marriage. She described intercourse with him as being like "a game of cat and mouse." When he pushed forward past a certain point, she pulled back at the same time. It took some concentration and it was probably a kind of challenge to both of them. They loved each other, and he wasn't trying to hurt her, just fill her, and she was a business executive at work, and she liked men to be dominant at home in the bedroom.

I have no experience with this kind of intercourse, and I never thought of it being like that, but you may find pleasure in your own game of cat and mouse with your guy.

[NubbinsUp]

now that my boyfriend and I are apart more, (work schedules), when we do have sex it's kinda' like the first times we were intimate. It hurts but it feels good

I envy that physical sensation and am happy for you both.