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What kind of store bought lubrication do you recommend for first timers?

[lizzardb63]

I would suggest anything silicon based. There are actually lubes specifically for anal, and I believe most contain silicon. It's very silky and smooth and the skin does not obsorb it, so it won't "dry up".

[someone_like_u]

My husband and I always use AstroGlide, water-based. It works well, use plenty of it.

[LanaBear]

I highly recommend AstroGlide! It is the only lube I will buy. I would completely NOT recommend any of the specific anal lubes that advertise desensitizing. You need to be fully aware of WHAT is going on down there and what it feels like to be safe. If you can't feel, you won't know when to stop or slow down should it get to that point.

[rosekitten]

Yup, lots of lube. I usually use water-based lubes (easier cleanup), unless we're actually in water (like, the shower), and then we use silicone based lubes.

[lizzardb63]

I would recommend never using those numbing creams during anal though. I had a friend use those and she ended up tearing, but didn't realize how bad...until it wore off. She was very sorry she used it the next couple days, lol.

[GUEST]

PATIENCE first then LOTS of lube...then more patience...then more lube.

Type of lube is a personal preference. As with most things, there are pros and cons to both types (water based or silicone).

[Nholland]

I've only had anal once and I can't recommend any type of lube but I do know that me being on top was the only way I could ever do it. We tried missionary and doggy style and no way, but me on top for some reason didn't hurt at all. Good luck!

[sallywi2003]

I use the Astro glide it works great. Use plenty and take it slow. Do not let him fully penetrate you until you have worked up to it for awhile. It feels great if you take your time.

[Lovelovelove92]

1- Don't insist on penetration
Although it's hard to believe, you don't need to stick your fingers or penis inside the rectum for the pleasurable sensations associated with anal sex. And although it might be a bitter pill for some guys to swallow, when you're receiving anal sex, you don't need to have anything put inside you either.

By simply rubbing the anus or even licking it, known as rimming, the receiving person can derive awesome sensations.

2- Make it feel good all the time
Many women have told us that their first anal sex experience (and sometimes their second and third) hurt like a , but ladies, it doesn't have to. We're serious.

Now, if she isn't calm and relaxed, it's going to hurt. If you insist on shoving your penis inside her (like ripping off a bandage -- one shot), it's going to hurt. If you don't use lubrication, it's going to hurt.

You need to talk about it and both of you need to agree to do it happily; no one should be coerced into it. You also need to be patient and let her lead the way. If you are going to engage in anal sex, let her hold your penis and guide it in slowly. Go in about an inch, then pull out completely, then go in about an inch farther and pull out completely. Keep going in and out at one-inch intervals and pretty soon you'll be in.

3- Understand that there are 2 sphincters
There are two sphincter muscles in the anus (if you place your finger inside about inch deep and press against the side, you'll feel them), and they are less than an inch apart.

While you can control the external sphincter at will, the internal sphincter is not the same. It reacts more in a reflexive way. So while your partner may assure you that she's relaxed and willing, her internal sphincter may prove otherwise.

The point is that you need to be patient and give your partner time to learn how to relax and try different positions to make it happen.



4- Stimulate the anal region while doing other things

The sensation of touching the anus or rectum alone may feel uncomfortable for your girl or even yourself, but couple it with penetration or oral sex, and suddenly it'll feel much better.

For example, while you're engaging in vaginal sex, you can insert a sex toy into your girl's anus to give her the sensation of DP, or double penetration. And she can insert a toy into yours while you're penetrating her or she's performing oral sex on you. It's up to you to decide what you're comfortable with.


5- Change your diet

For a pleasurable anal sex experience, it's important for both of you to eat a diet rich fiber, raw vegetables and fruit rather than processed foods.

Regular bowel movements are conducive to both comfort and confidence when it comes to anal sex. Adult film stars about to engage in anal sex always undergo enemas beforehand to ensure no "slip-ups."

So make sure that your diet is a healthy one and, although fiber is recommended, try to avoid eating it for a few hours before you're set to engage in anal sex.


6- Obey the rules of hygiene

There's a reason why women have to wipe from front to back when they do No. 2; trace amounts of feces may cause infection. The same rules apply to anal sex.

If you put your penis or fingers in or around her anus, you cannot simply revert to her vagina afterward. There are ways to resolve this issue, however.

You can always discard the "anal sex" condom and put on a new one for vaginal entry.

As for your fingers, you can always keep baby wipes close by and wipe your hands before you use them on her vagina.

Remember; you can go from the vagina to the anus, but not the other way around. Hopefully you know your female anatomy