[AliJed]

Hi everyone, I'm already a member but I'm a bit embarrassed about this so have set up a new profile. I hope that's OK. Sorry in advance for the 'nature' of this post too.

I'll get to the point. Up until recently I'd been with 5 men in my life and all of them 'shot' their load at the end which I always quite enjoyed as it sort of gave me the feeling I'd done a good job so to speak. Now it's been a while after splitting with my ex last year, but over the summer I met someone else (we'll just call him man 6) and he's fit, healthy, slim, doesn't smoke and doesn't drink much. He has no medical issue but at the end his just dribbles out. The amount is 'normal' but there's no distance to it at all which when it first happened I was a bit disappointed (hopefully I didn't let it show) but it has happened on every occasion since.

I should add this isn't a deal breaker or anything and apart from that, sex is good but that was something I quite looked forward to at the end and now it is a bit of a let down. I asked if he'd been 'sorting himself out' beforehand and he said no, he's never been able to shoot except in very rare occasions (like 1 in a 100) but there was no set reason why it happened on the very rare occasions and when it did happen, it would not go far anyway (about a foot max).

Now I thought all men shot based on my experience, porn (I know, I know, it's not real life) and conversations with friends. My exes they didn't do it every single time but certainly nearly always (from what I saw anyway).

Given this I was trying to find out how common dribblers and shooters were. So my question is out of the men you've been with, what percentage were shooters and what percentage were dribbles?

[atskitty2]

Well, I certainly haven't kept a tally over the years, but I've known some dribblers. I typically stick that thing in my mouth before he gets off, if we're playing that way, so there's no mess to clean up! LOL
Unless he wants to blow on a body part. Otherwise if he blows inside, I wouldn't know how strong was the force.

Try to remember that the way he ejaculates is no reflection on you. It's not as if the more he is into you, the further distance he can blow. So, try to control that disappointment as he may pick up on that feeling you're having, and mistake it for dissatisfaction with his overall performance. Since you've already brought it up, it's been discussed and you know that it's just the way his body works, try to find something hot about the way he blows, so that you don't send off a negative vibe about it.

I'd look at the bright side. It's easier clean up for you both if there's nothing being flung off in all directions, onto the wall, etc.

[jns]

As a male and now over 60, I have some input on this. When I was younger, I shot a good distance, maybe up to five feet, but certainly three feet. As I got older, that distance decreased. For the last five to ten years, I have mostly dribbled and any fountain (rarely) has been only a few inches. Possibly my diabetes has something to do with that (12 years) and possibly it is also partially due to muscles not being quite as fit as they once were. The feeling at climax is still the same.

[JonnyR]

AliJed You have absolutely nothing to be concerned or worried about.

In fact, MOST men are dribblers -- this has been confirmed through scientific sex research by various institutes over the years. You can look up that research yourself if you want.

As for myself, I've always been a "high volume dribbler" and that's just genetics and the way my body is created.

Some things to note however:

- A man can "shoot" if he pinches the tip of his penis shut as he is ejaculating (as they do in porn) -- and like when you pinch off a water hose and then let it loose, it explodes with power upon release.

- I "shoot" every now and then -- usually when I am most turned on and/or haven't had sex or masturbated for awhile. Arousal DEFINTEILY plays a part especially for dribblers, but being super horny won't necessarily mean a dribbler can become a shooter, sometimes it's not in the cards -- similar to women who can squirt vs. those that cannot (regardless of how trainable a skill that might be for some).

- I think it's more about the VOLUME than the distance.

Here's how you know if a guy is REALLY horny and turned on and satisfied -- they cum, a LOT. Or at least a lot MORE than they usually do.

Again, you have to correct for genetic factors as some guys just don't have a high semen volume no matter what in the same way some can't shoot no matter what (unless they physically manipulate their ejaculation as described in the first point, which is not exactly fun and pleasurable, it's just for show!).

I tend to dribble, but be able to cum a LOT, especially when it was a satisfying lovemaking experience...that's more of a telltale sign for me than shooting, which can also happen at times, but more rarely.

--> So, bottom line: don't worry about this!

It's no different than a woman that can or can't have an orgasm in a certain position; a man that doesn't get super rock hard boners; or any other genetic variance that has nothing to do with you, but more so to do with their individual quirks.

Enjoy your semen in whatever form it takes! ;-)

[Baboy]

I have not looked in on this site for a couple of years, so I decided to drop by today and look around. Good to see some of the old stalwarts still here.

Not wanting to go away quietly, passing unnoticed, I cast about for a thread to which I could post, to memorialize this visit. I happened upon this "shooter" thread. I considered it to be a topic I could have a shot at.

I have read that many, if not most guys, are more dribblers than shooters. I have always been in the latter category.

A few years ago, when I was last active here, "deep-evie" regaled us all with tales and instructed us on "The 4 Ss of sex", which she defined in these artful terms: "skill, stamina, speed (pacing), size, all 4 are important factors and revolve around a centre point of attraction" is what we were told.

To that list I proposed the addition of "style" and now I see the 6th "s" of sex, namely "shooting"!

Alas, like jns, now past 60 also, my shooting prowess has started to flag. And, I suppose, even shooting should be rated for merit under headings, such as muzzle velocity, muzzle energy, mid-range trajectory, distance, sheer stopping power.

I had a gf in days past who did not want to use birth control herself, did not want me to use condoms and always wanted me to pull out when chamber pressures reached a critical point. So, I always obliged and withdrew (exquisitely timed, of course) and I could launch a few good shots of baby batter straight at her face. Often she would quickly turn aside so the projectile would go over her shoulder, only to be stopped by a headboard, a wall, a nearby mountainside, or what have you. I think my girl would have been happy with a dribble. There were times when she would turn, but most would end up in her freshly-washed hair. She never complained, but I suspect she did not welcome that bolus of conditioner.

But, as I said, things are changing. She would be safer now. My shooting range is probably more like 1 to 2 feet. Now it matters less, since my wife prefers my cum placed discreetly inside most of the time. Although, once in awhile, she'll ask me to spay her tummy and breasts and I have enough launch capacity left to hit those targets.

[Rayn]

I'm a shooter, but wasn't always. I used to be more of a drizzler, but after i started exercising and kegeling regularly things started to change. I've never measured it, but if i had to guess, I'd say that when masturbating, i can shoot anywhere between 5 and 12 inches. My wife really enjoys it because she can feel it splashing into her.

[MrMr]

My first 2 loads are pretty strong squirts but after that it's more of a dribble

[Rayn]

So, do women like, or even prefer, "shooters"? Why or why not?

[EmptyNester]

In my early years, I could easily splash the headboard with most baby batter explosions. With age, the velocity & volume has decreased. However, if I have not unchambered one in a few days I can still splatter the wall in the shower with the intitial eruption.. Definitely, lower volume still.

[JonnyR]

Rayn With all the women I've been with, not one single time have they ever mentioned, asked for or reminisced about wanting, having or experiencing a "shooter".

Good sex is good sex -- regardless of what happens at the very end of a man's orgasm.

What some have told me is that they can "Feel" me cumming inside them as my penis pumps during ejaculation, but not the cum squirting, rather the motion and being "filled up".

Whenever I've cum in a woman's mouth or on her face, or body, again there was never a wish for it to "shoot" -- just having it be draped all over/in them was always way more than enough.

Is there potentially an added thrill of someone who can shoot their load a mile away? Sure...sounds exciting to me just writing it as a man -- but it is certainly neither required or anything that diminishes the sexual experience for either person if it doesn't happen.

Dribblers are just as good in bed as shooters!