[fidler.e]

When my husband and I first got married (we were both virgins) we used condoms quite frequently as I wasn't the best about remembering to take my birth control pills and we didn't want to risk it. He could last quite long in bed when we were using condoms. We do not use condoms anymore, as I am now on the depo provera shot. We both strongly prefer sex without condoms but the only issue is that my husband can't last very long. I would say about a minute or two. Less if I have given him oral beforehand. With a condom he can go over 10 minutes most of the time. Now, even if he does finish, he continues semi-firm, until I have orgasmed, which I appreciate of course! But, semi-firm just doesn't feel as great as a full erection and sometimes I feel pressure to finish quickly.

Now, what can be done? I know using condoms again is an option, we would just strongly prefer to try and find other ways. Things are a bit complicated because my husband lives in Egypt (we are working on immigration) so we only get to be together one month at a time every few months because of my job. Are there any tricks to lasting longer without a condom we could either work on when we are together or he could practice on his own?

Any help is appreciated!

[Stillness]

Exercising the PC muscles. The same ones you squeeze when you hold your pee. It will give you both more control. It will allow him to delay and may allow you to climax more quickly.

A series of squeezes and releases and sustaining squeezes are the two basic exercises. You could search "kegel exercises" for more.

[CateMonster]

Go to a sex store, and look for a ******** ring. It could help him keep his erection longer.

EDIT: haha aw, it starred out? so... penis ring, then.

[sweatersandtea]

Go to a sex store, and look for a **************** ring. It could help him keep his erection longer.

EDIT: haha aw, it starred out? so... penis ring, then.

I second that. Also, they make some that vibrate. It's not a huge difference but it is an extra little add on. Basically, they work by restricting blood flow to the penis. Not to the point of hurting or anything, just delays orgasm a bit.

[wino33]

You can also make him orgasm earlier and then have him warm you up with some foreplay as he recovers. Then when he gets hard again you can go at it. It usually takes significantly longer for a man to reach orgasm the second time.

[Fedupwife]

I used to sell passion parties, and they had a cream called stay hard I think. It's suppose to help with sensitivity issues. I'm sure you could find it at a store tho too.

[candy.girl1412]

the reason he cums so fast is because hes so turned on.. what he could do is ask him to masturbate and cum, about 15 min before you start sex..the sexual tension will have been released and he should last longer..

[Mr. Inquisitive]

How often do you guys have sex? When I miss a day or two I have a hard time lasting very long although a minute or two is quite brief.