[Doomini]

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Good evening lovely ladies and gents of the forum.

I am here today to ask for a few tips in choosing a vibrator, dildo or whatever it might end up being after your input

Starting off, I'd like to say that I'm a guy and my intention is to buy a sex toy that will basically spice things up in the bedroom with my girlfriend. I'll spare you the details unless you need to know something, in which case feel free to ask, but basically I have no experience or knowledge of what to get for my SO that would not only satisfy her whilst I'm there, but also help her have some fun on her own since we only see each other on the weekends.

Things that you would need to know are only a few, first of all she cannot have a clitoral orgasm from what she has told me and what I've seen her react positively to, and yes, that does in fact mean that she can only have a vaginal orgasm, which honestly I sometimes have a hard time helping her get to, a fella can only last as long sometimes
She doesn't really appreciate a lot of foreplay and she's told me that she's has always been unable to reach an orgasm by herself.

Now, I can only imagine how this info changes the sex toy I'd like to get her, glass or rubber, vibrating or still, standard shaped or shaped like a Washington statue? I have, well... no clue.
So I turn to thee in my time of need. I know no woman is the same or wants the same as another, but at the very least guide me down a path.
Thanks for your time in advance, your help is much appreciated

[Romy]

I prefer the shower head over any sex toy. Followed by the Hitachi Magic Wand - looks awful, is supposed to be for back/shoulder massages etc but when used on the clitoris.....well the orgasms are out of this world. Good luck finding the one that works for your girlfriend. It should be lots of fun trying them out. I have Lelo vibrators but none of them are intense enough to get me over the edge.

[Motorguy]

My Donna, has way to may toys to name them all. But her best one she carries with her all the time is the pocket rocket lol. But now that explains why the long showers we have a shower head that has the message feature as well. I need to ask her about the shower massage and see what she says lol. Thanks for that little bit of information Romy lol.

[Romy]

My Donna, has way to may toys to name them all. But her best one she carries with her all the time is the pocket rocket lol. But now that explains why the long showers we have a shower head that has the message feature as well. I need to ask her about the shower massage and see what she says lol. Thanks for that little bit of information Romy lol.

In regards to the shower head, I actually unscrew the actual head so that there's just a fairly powerful long stream of water coming out which I then hold against my clitoris.

[Motorguy]

In regards to the shower head, I actually unscrew the actual head so that there's just a fairly powerful long stream of water coming out which I then hold against my clitoris.

I better not let Donna, read this part she may just do that or hide the tools so she can do the same thing lol. The shower head we have is the shower head you can take off with a hose attached. Then change the stream of water to hard shooting water to soft spray of water then she holds the handle right to her clitoris then.But hard stream would be better for sure for Donna.I may go in and watch her enjoy her self with the shower massage now lol.

[Element]

My best guess would be a vibrator, the size she might have to decide on depending on placement of her g-spot and the depth of her vagina. But a vibrator you can turn on and off, so if the she doesn't like the vibrations, you can just use it as a dildo, per se.

[effy2014]

I need help on this one . . . I have not heard of a woman that cannothave a clitoral orgasm. I understand that some women (thankfully none that I have been intimate with) do not like direct clitoral stimulation, but indirect stimulation is needed to reach orgasm. In what way does your GF reach orgasm by masterbating? That would determine the type of sex toy that would be best for her (ie a g-spot toy might be the thing).

[bubba29]

probably the most widely liked toy for vaginal stimulation is the Njoy Pure Wand. she may have to spend some time with it on her own to get the hang of it or she can spend some time coaching you how she likes it best. as for a penetrative toy, many toy aficionados would chose that over any other toy. for a straight penis like toy, vixskin has a wide range sizes to fit many different preferences. woman luv the feel of these silicone toys.

as for clitoral stimulation, the eroscillator has worked for many woman who have failed with everything else. the wahl massager is a decent alternative for a much lower price. the we vibe tango is a very powerful cordless toy that may work also. based on her lack of success in the past, she probably needs one of the powerful toys and some time to learn how to use it.

[Doomini]

I need help on this one . . . I have not heard of a woman that cannothave a clitoral orgasm. I understand that some women (thankfully none that I have been intimate with) do not like direct clitoral stimulation, but indirect stimulation is needed to reach orgasm. In what way does your GF reach orgasm by masterbating? That would determine the type of sex toy that would be best for her (ie a g-spot toy might be the thing).

Well, as I've written, she doesn't reach an orgasm when she masturbates by herself. She really doesn't enjoy clitoral stimulation at all, as much time as I've spent down there (even though she was my first so I'm quite inexperienced) she has admitted to generally not enjoy that kind of thing. She basically just prefers good ol' sex, but as I've said, I can only last as long, and I really wanna see her enjoy sex even more.

tl;dr vaginal & penetrative stimulation > clitoral stimulation for her.

I'm mainly interested in any sort of suggestions for penetrating toys and their various brands, types etc, also open to other ideas ofc, but I don't believe sole focus on clitoral stimulation is the way to go...

[Silvervine]

It's so difficult with toys because you really never know what you're getting unless you know what you like. I've accumulated about 18 different toys over the years because it's I've been experimenting. I just wish there was one toy that did it all

Since she doesn't doesn't enjoy clitoral stimulation I would suggest any vibrator with a curve (a gspot vibrator) that is also waterproof. There are none specific that come to mind as mine was just a cheapy that came free with a purchase. And it does the job quite well! But if she wants something with strong vibrations try the Ammunition For Love RO 150mm Slim Line. It isn't a gspot vibrator but Rocks Off is so well known for the same vibrator in bullet form (80mm) and it is the strongest thing I've ever used. The 150mm is insertable and at maximum strength, it's pretty **** good. I've reached an orgasm after 50something seconds with this.

However, if she's not into strong vibrations, I'm not really sure what else there is. The best thing to do is just read reviews! Glass dildos are pretty amazing. If your partner can achieve vaginal orgasms without clitoral stimulation then this is also a safe option. You can get them in different sizes, shapes, and textures which is a bonus! They are probably the most hygienic as well given that they are non-porous and can be cleaned so easily. I'm always reaching for my glass toys because they are the most durable and feel amazing once inside.

Last note, pay special attention to width and length of any toy. I'm guessing she's not involved in this toy shopping process so just be mindful of this. You probably have the best idea of what size/width she is most comfortable with so try to avoid something that you think might hurt her. When in doubt, compare it to the size and width of your penis.