Worried that he won't go down on me

[Nair1970]

I am in a brand new relationship where everything is seemingly perfect. We are 36 and 37 yrs.

Intimacy has been very passionate and wonderful. He has been on medication which has made maintaining an election challenging, however he has assured me this is temporary and I am being patient.

When we do share intimacy however, he has never initiated going down on me, he just fingers me until I get off, whereas I am always giving him blowjobs.

He already feels inadequate about the erectile issue, so how do I bring this up without being critical or potentially making things worse?

Not going down on me would honestly be the biggest intimacy killer for me.. i love to go down and I will offer it any time, day or night. But i get resentful quickly and refuse to do it again if he doesnt care to please me..

Please help, he is perfect in EVERY other way..

We are 52/46 Indian couple who are experimenting sexual activities with like minded people.

[Roxie88]

Thank you for all those who offered helpful advice!
thankfully, I brought it up during an intimate moment and the reaction was success!!

I'm still a little confused about why I needed to ask first.. but not complaining lol

[Rayn]

Thank you for all those who offered helpful advice!
thankfully, I brought it up during an intimate moment and the reaction was success!!

I'm still a little confused about why I needed to ask first.. but not complaining lol

Roxie88 I'm glad it worked out for you. You asked because consent goes both ways and you wouldn't want to spoil the mood by putting your partner in a situation where they are uncomfortable. With any luck, do you think this will be a regular occurrence or is it still in the trial phase?

[Zoë T.]

I would also recommend trying out a flavored lube! In fact, it might be fun to go to a store together (or look online) and pick one out that sounds particularly enticing. It could be a subtle and sexy way to inspire him. My personal favorite edible lubes are from Sliquid. They have a ton of delicious and unique flavors and are strong enough to really mask the taste of oral sex.