[FeelingWeird]

I should have not used virgin because it has many implications. Mea culpa.

The next thing to consider is getting a set of vaginal dilators since the dildo is too big. This may be something to talk to your doctor about before buying. Best wishes. The whole situation sounds painful.

I would have bought those but they were like $100 at the store where I got the dildo. They were actually the first thing the store clerk suggested. But my doctor did not suggest that. She suggested dildo or vibrator. So don't really see how dilators would stretch me enough; they looked very thin. I can already get a finger in. I need to be able to get larger things in.

[FeelingWeird]

Virginity is not a real thing. It is a social construct, not a biological state of being. I have not had vaginal intercourse, but I do not consider myself a virgin, and the word is offensive to me because it implies that my other sexual experiences are not real. I have read medical literature about hymens, spoken to my doctor about it, and seen the pictures. They cover the outside of the vaginal opening, not the inside. They typically shrink or break on their own during adulthood and can even break from playing sports, so it is extremely unlikely that I would have an intact hymen at my age. In examining my own vaginal opening, it looks completely normal, and there does not even appear to be a hymen there anymore. Further, my doctor suggested I use the dildo to get used to things in my vagina before the exam. She knows I have not had vaginal intercourse and said nothing about hymens. So since I can't get the dildo in me, there is no way she will get a speculum in me either.

Why is this post showing as unapproved now?

[jns]

Why is this post showing as unapproved now?

I have no idea but I approved it. There is a filter that sometimes unapproves posts for unknown reasons.

[FeelingWeird]

I have no idea but I approved it. There is a filter that sometimes unapproves posts for unknown reasons.

Thank you!

[jns]

Thank you!

Thank you for bringing it to my attention.

[FeelingWeird]

So some updates on this. Right after my last post, I bought the dilator set. I was on the next to smallest dilator when I had the pap exam. I was able to successfully do it, though it did burn a little when the speculum got opened inside me (going in and out was fine). I worked through the dilators pretty quickly and finished the set last week. Last weekend, I was able to successfully (to put it mildly) have intercourse with a very close friend. It was an amazing experience that far exceeded my expectations. It was also one of the best weekends of my life for a variety of reasons, all of which involved many bonding experiences with one of the most important people in my life. I am truly blessed to have such a wonderful person in my life.

[EmptyNester]

Great news!

[jns]

So some updates on this. Right after my last post, I bought the dilator set. I was on the next to smallest dilator when I had the pap exam. I was able to successfully do it, though it did burn a little when the speculum got opened inside me (going in and out was fine). I worked through the dilators pretty quickly and finished the set last week. Last weekend, I was able to successfully (to put it mildly) have intercourse with a very close friend. It was an amazing experience that far exceeded my expectations. It was also one of the best weekends of my life for a variety of reasons, all of which involved many bonding experiences with one of the most important people in my life. I am truly blessed to have such a wonderful person in my life.

It's great that the dilator set worked as promised and that your intercourse experience was so good. Best wishes.