[piti06]

Hi, Me (M/38) and my Wife (F/36) are married for 9 years with 2 kids (7,1).

There is one issue that bother me a lot, it's from the beginning of our relationship.
My wife doesn't let me cum on or inside her. I need to use a tissue.
Are there couples that have the same problem?
We already have 2 children but the only time that I could cum inside is when we are planning on having children.
A few second before I cum I have to pull and cum on a tissue.
Thanks

[Wednesday L.F.]

If you’re pulling out in lieu of birth control, that’s not a very reliable method.
Condoms would be more reliable and you wouldn’t have to pull out.

[piti06]

Hi Wednesday, the issue here isn't to find a reliable way to avoid a new baby but the cum on her body. I asked her in the past if I can cum on her stomach or on her breast but she told me it's disgusting and she also doesn't want me to cum inside her even if she with pills.
As I mentioned, this isn't a new issue but since the beginning of our relationship, 15 years ago.
The tissue part is one of the acts that I really lower my desire but this is the only way we can do something.

[EmptyNester]

Oh wow...She obviously has an aversion to cum. Has she ever shared why? Hopefully you shared 15yrs ago how having to cum into a tissue lessens the experience. Does she at least help you finish?

[jns]

Hi, Me (M/38) and my Wife (F/36) are married for 9 years with 2 kids (7,1).

There is one issue that bother me a lot, it's from the beginning of our relationship.
My wife doesn't let me cum on or inside her. I need to use a tissue.
Are there couples that have the same problem?
We already have 2 children but the only time that I could cum inside is when we are planning on having children.
A few second before I cum I have to pull and cum on a tissue.
Thanks

Welcome to WH Interactive Forums. After 15 years of going along with her rules, I don't see how she is going to want to change what for her is a proven success. I suspect that there are others who have the same rules. You could enhance your ejaculation by masturbating ever so little after pulling out while having the tissue in the other hand, especially having contact in the frenulum area and the corona area where the most sensation nerves are. Like EmptyNester , I am wondering where the aversion to semen and sperm comes from, especially if it ok for procreation, such as having your two children. Do the rules allow you to bring her to orgasm and if so, do you do it?

[piti06]

Oh wow...She obviously has an aversion to cum. Has she ever shared why? Hopefully you shared 15yrs ago how having to cum into a tissue lessens the experience. Does she at least help you finish?

She just tell me that she doesn't like it. Sometimes she help to finish by holding the tissue but no way on her body. I'm not talking about cum on her face or something like that, just on any other part of her body.

[piti06]

Welcome to WH Interactive Forums. After 15 years of going along with her rules, I don't see how she is going to want to change what for her is a proven success. I suspect that there are others who have the same rules. You could enhance your ejaculation by masturbating ever so little after pulling out while having the tissue in the other hand, especially having contact in the frenulum area and the corona area where the most sensation nerves are. Like EmptyNester , I am wondering where the aversion to semen and sperm comes from, especially if it ok for procreation, such as having your two children. Do the rules allow you to bring her to orgasm and if so, do you do it?

I do bring her to orgasm and every time we are having sex we both have orgasm. The issue now that since our little baby joined our family 6 months ago we had sex only one time. I'm trying to initiate sex by flattering her, helping around the house especially with the kids, sexting her while I'm at work, but she told me that she still not into "the sex thing" but this is another issue.

[jns]

I do bring her to orgasm and every time we are having sex we both have orgasm. The issue now that since our little baby joined our family 6 months ago we had sex only one time. I'm trying to initiate sex by flattering her, helping around the house especially with the kids, sexting her while I'm at work, but she told me that she still not into "the sex thing" but this is another issue.

Now I understand some of the dynamic with the additional information. A six month baby takes a lot of energy out of one or both parents and has been doing it since birth. She may be feeling more worn out than sexy. Maybe you'll get better results by letting her come around on her own. It will probably be frustrating to you to do this. To revisit the tissue issue, I don't think she will change.

[Fedora7]

In my opinion she is afraid of getting conceived and if you both are not willing to get more kids that's good.

[atskitty2]

Hello piti06!
Welcome! So glad you joined us here!

You say this has been an issue for you since the beginning, 15 years ago. When was she made aware that this is not your preference? Did you bring it up 15 years ago? Or have you sort of suffered in silence, and just abided by her wishes all this time until recently? And does she understand exactly how detrimental this is to your overall sexual experience and satisfaction?

Is this a trend in your relationship, generally speaking? Is there a lot of one-sided decisions? Or is it generally a marriage where you're communicating openly, honestly and reaching decisions with both party's opinions and preferences considered?

What is your cultural and religious background? Is that a factor in any way for her? Is the perception there that your cum is unclean and that's why she doesn't want it on her? Honestly, I think a lot of women don't particularly enjoy having cum everywhere, but does it go deeper than just the typical "I like to be clean" kind of thing?

As to the recent decrease in desire and frequency, I'm quite certain that is related to the new arrival of your child and now having 2 children to care for. I applaud you for recognizing the need to step it up around the house, and pitch in more than usual.

I've spit out a lot of discussion points here, so I'll stop right there and look forward to reading your response. Hopefully we can find some ways to approach this and resolve this with you, though I'm afraid that jns is probably correct. 15 years is a long time to acquiesce.