[LionelFisher]

I've had a problem with premature ejaculation during sex. I've used delay spray to help me last longer in bed, but I haven't told my partner that I use it. I'm afraid she'll judge me negatively if she finds out. Ladies, if you found out your partner was using delay spray to last longer, what would you think?

[Wednesday L.F.]

I’d say it was considerate of him, presuming he’s doing it for my enjoyment. If it’s my partner though, I’d feel sad that they waited to tell me. I’d hope my partner would trust me more than to hide something like that.

[Alison H.]

Honestly, I wouldn't think less of a guy for using a delay spray and certainly wouldn't judge him for it — my biggest concern would be whether or not he was able to enjoy sex (and sensation) as much because of it. I can't speak for every woman, of course, and as Wednesday said above, I'd think it was considerate if he was doing it for my benefit. At the same time, I'd worry my partner wasn't getting as much enjoyment out of sex because of a delay spray, and I'd feel bad about finding that out later rather than sooner.

But too, if your partner is aware of the issue, it might be something you can work on together by trying edging, different positions, or other means that can help build stamina or delay ejaculation without numbing your penis with a spray.

I don't know what your relationship with your partner is like, but if you trust them enough to tell them, I would, if only so you can work on it together, rather than struggling with it alone.

[Pihu]

Premature ejaculation is a common issue among men, so there's no problem if men use delay sprays. In my opinion, there's no reason to judge a man for this. I only want to enjoy sex, and using a delay spray can help enhance the experience for both partners.