[firsttimer91]

Hi everyone
I’m 32 and had sex for the first time last night
I met the guy on bumble and we went out on our second date last night
i was attracted to him and enjoyed his company but very quickly realised I didn’t want anything long-term with him which I expressed during our first date even though my profile says I’m looking for a relationship
anyway I was attracted to him and have been feeling for a while that I wanted to finally have sex
i invited him up to my place and things got hot and heavy and we did it
tbh it wasn’t great. It wasn’t bad but it was definitely…anticlimactic

I have two questions:

i don’t want to see him again. Should I contact him and express that? How does it work with one night stands? Should I do nothing and let it fizzle out?

the other thing I’m feeling is a weird guilt/regret. I’m not ashamed or anything but just feel a little icky. Maybe it’s because I did it with a relative stranger. Is that normal? To feel regret after your first time? Is it better with someone you care about? Or does it get better with time? Or is this it haha?

[EmptyNester]

I would wait for him to reach out to you. He may not, in which case it is fizzled. If he does, let him know you are just not into him.

No need to feel regret. Sex is nornal, just not for you yet. You are still at a stage where you don't know what you don't know. The key is to figure what gets you going, so that you can clue in the guy how to get you going. If you don't know what feels good to you, a guy certainly won't. To me, sex does have more meaning with someone you care about. You can open up much easier about your feelings and initimacy.

[Wednesday L.F.]

Any updates?