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  • easygoing
    Member
    • Jan 2018
    • 54

    Sex before marriage

    What a wonderful resource this site is for men like me. There are so may unanswered questions men have about women and sexuality and it’s refreshing to be able to ask and get a serious reply. Thank you.

    My questions this time related to pre-marriage sex. My wife and I met in February 1968 wile we were on holidays. We made love the night we met and on 2-3 other occasions before we went on our own way home. Neither of us would have guessed we’s still be together 56 years later I’m sure.

    None of the answers to these questions would affect the way I feel for my wife because I love her dearly and always have, but I can’t stop wondering how many other boys she might have has sex with before me.

    I’d be a hypocrite if I did get upset because it’s a reasonable guess that I had sex with 12-20 girls before I met my wife.

    My question is, how many men did you have sex with before your current partner…
    (a) Zero
    (b) 1-2
    (c) 3-5
    (d) 5-10
    (e) More than 10

    I hope that some of you are prepared to answer, I know it’s not that important but gee whiz, I, and I’m sure others, would like to get a feel for things.
  • jns
    Assistant Admin
    • Mar 2010
    • 8398

    I am a man and had sex with maybe two dozen women before meeting my wife of more than 30 years. None of the women I had sex with were virgins. I never let it bother me that my wife had sex with other men before we met. She has never brought up any of the details and I never had any desire to ask.
    I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
    ...
    Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

    From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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    • MrMr
      Banned
      • Apr 2019
      • 270

      Just ask her. Personally I would never marry someone who hadn't slept with anyone else because I want my partner to know what they like. Also if they have had others and choose to be with you is much better than me being her only experience.

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