[Hyku1904]

Hi ladies,
I am seeing a shy 20 year old. Last night, I gave her a 15 minute two finger g spot massage clitoris licking combo. She made no sound, so I looked up at her. Her eyes were closed, she had a look that suggested she was being overwhelmed by pleasure (teeth clenched, big smile) - and she was clenching the sheets with both hands. I proceeded to increase the speed for 5 minutes. Then I slowly finished.
Afterwards, she kept staring at me, but she would not tell me if she came. I was worried that I had made her feel uncomfortable, but she was cool.
I assume that this was her 1st g spot massage, so she was being shy?

Ladies, do you think that she came?

Jules

[jns]

Hi ladies,
I am seeing a shy 20 year old. Last night, I gave her a 15 minute two finger g spot massage clitoris licking combo. She made no sound, so I looked up at her. Her eyes were closed, she had a look that suggested she was being overwhelmed by pleasure (teeth clenched, big smile) - and she was clenching the sheets with both hands. I proceeded to increase the speed for 5 minutes. Then I slowly finished.
Afterwards, she kept staring at me, but she would not tell me if she came. I was worried that I had made her feel uncomfortable, but she was cool.
I assume that this was her 1st g spot massage, so she was being shy?

Ladies, do you think that she came?

Jules

From my experience I do not think she reached climax. The reason is that she did not have you stop at some point because she was overwhelmed by the sensation. This is from my observation so others can have different experiences and observations. She may have had a great experience with a tremendous amount of sensation. It is possible that she has never had an orgasm so she does not have a personal reference, only what she has read or others have said.

[Hyku1904]

From my experience I do not think she reached climax. The reason is that she did not have you stop at some point because she was overwhelmed by the sensation. This is from my observation so others can have different experiences and observations. She may have had a great experience with a tremendous amount of sensation. It is possible that she has never had an orgasm so she does not have a personal reference, only what she has read or others have said.

"She may have had a great experience with a tremendous amount of sensation" Are gals cool with this, or is an orgasm the prime objective?
Next time, I will engage in more foreplay to see if that helps her have an orgasm?

[MeLuvCookies]

My wife, for reasons I have never understood, has said ever since I've known her that she does not like receiving oral at all and has never liked it even before me. Its actually been a struggle for me because that is my favorite thing to do but she is like absolute no shutdown of any attempt she won't even try to just lay back and try to enjoy it. A few times when she was a bit tipsy and less inhibited I tried and her body would respond well for a few minutes and then she would get all in her head saying how gross it was and made her feel weird and self conscious and she didn't know what to do with herself.

I would try the same kind of stimulation with my fingers either inside or outside of her and she used to like that but at some point decided that was gross too.

I am almost positive it is a hangup in her head because I used to do something that created a similar clitoral stimulation, there is probably a name for it but I called it wet humping or dicking at the Y because I would sort of grind my erection upward against her clit instead of penetrating her so it was like my penis was acting as the tongue. And she would respond very well to that stimulation and I very reliably could get her to orgasm that way multiple times. But if I tried to stimulate her the same way with my tongue or my fingers she considered it gross and shut me down.

And then eventually she stopped letting me do the grinding against her thing too and now literally says she hates all forms of foreplay and all she wants is to go right to rough quickie style intercourse with no warmup.

The reasoning she gives me, which these are her words not mine because I know how crazy they sound, is that girls don't really like any of that stuff, women don't like receiving oral and they don't like fingers and foreplay and being played with, women just like the sex and she tells me that I need to read up more on what women really want. She actually said to me that if she wanted all that touching and licking and playing she would be with a woman and she is not a lesbian so she just wants me to stick it in. Again her words not mine and I am just left speechless by some of her attitudes towards sex because they are not what she was like when we got together.

And then when a discussion about female masturbation came up, because apparently she never knew what the song She Bop was actually about, and she said she had never masturbated in her life and that the idea was gross to her I tried to say that there it is not only normal and nothing wrong with it but plenty of adult women masturbate and it might be good to help her find what she likes so she can help me find what she likes and make sex more enjoyable for her. Her response was that only women who are *****s would masturbate. I don't even think it is true that she has never masturbated because I know she owned a vibrator when we met but she claims she never actually tried it.

Its like she is pretending to be more prudish than she actually is with me for some reason when I am literally saying this is a safe space you can try anything you want in bed except for other people.

I'm just speechless. Like she is not religious at all. And she is not conservative in any way shape or form. But somehow as she has gotten older and had kids and stuff her attitude towards sex has turned into like her being an extra on the Handmaid's Tale or something and I'm the guy who is trying tin vain to be super open and encouraging and sex positive. It would be comical if I wasn't in the middle of the situation.

I'm curious if any other women out there just flat out don't like receiving oral and don't like fingers and don't like foreplay or anything but intercourse. Like I am trying to understand her and learn some way to turn her on and satisfy her but sometimes I feel like I have no chance going into it under the limited working conditions she allows so to speak.