Hi everybody. I'm a fairly happily married guy, love my wife but our sex life, namely her increasingly being more and more shut down and inhibited sexually to the point she is barely willing to let me do anything that gives me any chance of getting her off has become one of the biggest problems for us in our marriage.
But lately she hs been making an argument about how all women are sexually and how I don't get what women want sexually that has me completely baffled and speechless.
So my wife says she has never ever liked a guy going down on her. She has always hated it as long as we have been together and says she never liked it with anybody before me so it is not something I'm doing wrong, she just has a hangup about it. She says it makes her uncomfortable and it doesn't feel good for her. This has been EXTREMELY difficult for me because going down on a woman and getting her off is actually my absolute favorite thing. It is too vanilla to be called a kink but it really is my kink and my fetish and I really have missed it so bad. It is my happy place so to speak and it has been so much harder than I could have imagined dealing with the fact that I will never get to experience doing that to a woman again. It is almost like a mourning as silly as that sounds.
I could maybe wrap my head around her individually not liking it for whatever reason and that I can't make her change as hard as that has been for me. I get that. She has that right. But now she keeps telling me that most women do not like guys going down on them and that none of her friends like it either and that it is weird and I need to do some research and learn what women want in bed. I'm just kind of speechless listening to this cause like I'm sitting here listening to a woman tell me I don't know what most women really want and I'm thinking to myself I've been with like 60 plus women and you are literally the only person I have ever encountered who doesn't like a guy going down on them. Like I never even thought such a thing was possible before I met her. And yet I'm being told I don't get what women want sexually and how to satisfy them sexually. And when I told her she is the only person I've ever met that doesn't like it her response was that I've been with some trashy women then. Like that felt like kind of a personal insult to me a little bit.
That's got me all in my head and confused. Like that just doesn't seem to jive with logic and common sense.
Like have I been wrong and missing something this whole time. Is my wife really right that women in general don't like a guy going down on them. Like how have I never encountered any woman that wasn't satisfied by me doing that and yet her and she says all her female friends all say they are totally not into it with anybody. I mean I get that she individually might not be into it for whatever reason but is that really common among women to not like it. I can't imagine so but I just need somebody to tell me I'm not losing my mind here or been doing something to women they didn't like all my life.
But lately she hs been making an argument about how all women are sexually and how I don't get what women want sexually that has me completely baffled and speechless.
So my wife says she has never ever liked a guy going down on her. She has always hated it as long as we have been together and says she never liked it with anybody before me so it is not something I'm doing wrong, she just has a hangup about it. She says it makes her uncomfortable and it doesn't feel good for her. This has been EXTREMELY difficult for me because going down on a woman and getting her off is actually my absolute favorite thing. It is too vanilla to be called a kink but it really is my kink and my fetish and I really have missed it so bad. It is my happy place so to speak and it has been so much harder than I could have imagined dealing with the fact that I will never get to experience doing that to a woman again. It is almost like a mourning as silly as that sounds.
I could maybe wrap my head around her individually not liking it for whatever reason and that I can't make her change as hard as that has been for me. I get that. She has that right. But now she keeps telling me that most women do not like guys going down on them and that none of her friends like it either and that it is weird and I need to do some research and learn what women want in bed. I'm just kind of speechless listening to this cause like I'm sitting here listening to a woman tell me I don't know what most women really want and I'm thinking to myself I've been with like 60 plus women and you are literally the only person I have ever encountered who doesn't like a guy going down on them. Like I never even thought such a thing was possible before I met her. And yet I'm being told I don't get what women want sexually and how to satisfy them sexually. And when I told her she is the only person I've ever met that doesn't like it her response was that I've been with some trashy women then. Like that felt like kind of a personal insult to me a little bit.
That's got me all in my head and confused. Like that just doesn't seem to jive with logic and common sense.
Like have I been wrong and missing something this whole time. Is my wife really right that women in general don't like a guy going down on them. Like how have I never encountered any woman that wasn't satisfied by me doing that and yet her and she says all her female friends all say they are totally not into it with anybody. I mean I get that she individually might not be into it for whatever reason but is that really common among women to not like it. I can't imagine so but I just need somebody to tell me I'm not losing my mind here or been doing something to women they didn't like all my life.
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