[SorridLives]

Have you paid attention to what kinds of site/girls he is viewing?
Maybe he likes huge breasts or tiny, large backsides, Asian girls, etc.
It maybe a fetish he has with a particular part of a women that you don't have. Please don't take that wrong, it was merely an open question to a possibility and not a suggestion that there is something lacking in you.

If you could go though his HISTORY in Internet Explorer and find out what he likes, see if there is a pattern, then maybe you could fill it...unless it required surgery, then you're on your own so to speak.

Good luck.

It's nothing kinky. Straight sex. The women are usually big breasted, but I am not small breasted either.
I think he just enjoys porno and masturbation. It may be the slow. selfish enjoyment of it....not having to worry about me....Though I am not difficult to get off.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

If I had to choose one of those above, I would say it is not I am not the sole provider of his orgasms. As I said,- I just sometimes feel he is missing it....and maybe it bothers me that he needs something (sexually) other than me.... Make sense? I know you probably feel that it is wrong to think that way....Selfish maybe?

Hmm, well if your problem was him watching other women I could sympathise and see where you were coming from, however I don't think it's acceptable to deny someone the option of masturbation. A guy knows how what he's doing is making him feel, so he can prolong the sensation, do whatever will feel good to him. This is something that he will always want to do, and to be honest, something that most men will always do, even in sexually fulfilling relationships. Also, he might simply have a higher sex drive than you, which is blowing off with masturbation.

Masturbation, as I think I mentioned earlier, is also completely different to sex in that there is no pressure or stress or even really physical exertion involved, it's just about him, not needing to impress or please you, indulging in his own sensations. I think that's fine (as long as you don't go without), and you might have problems if you campaign to get him to stop it.

[SorridLives]

......Masturbation, as I think I mentioned earlier, is also completely different to sex in that there is no pressure or stress or even really physical exertion involved, it's just about him, not needing to impress or please you, indulging in his own sensations. I think that's fine (as long as you don't go without), and you might have problems if you campaign to get him to stop it.

Anon,

I am *not* trying to get him to stop masturbating. I understand that he 'knows what he is doing' with every stroke and can self-satisfy very well. I understand he enjoys it. I am not trying to take that pleasure away from him. I am just having a hard time dealing with him *looking forward to masturbation* so much. I feel like I am just not enough sometimes...and I guess I just have to deal with the fact that *I am not* (enough). That is hard sometimes. I am one of those women who like to think of masturbation as something that is done when a person's partner is not around for a a couple of days....not in addition to partner sex almost equally. I can't help but think that my partner/husband likes it almost as much as partner sex, if not just as much,....and he is 'missing it' lately. Once or twice a month is not enough for him. He tried to lie (I believe it was a lie) and tell me (a while back) he does not miss it when he isn't doing it a lot, but I don't think he wants to hurt me by telling me he needs it more than he is getting to do it.
I am not happy about it, but I will deal with it.....and try to give him more 'alone time'. It's just not easy for me.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

It's good that you want to be a great part of your partners sexual alleviation, and you can be. In a biological point of view, I'm not sure if one woman is enough for a man, at least in that they're programmed to get their rocks off as much as possible, however whether or not we like it monogomy is here to stay.

Also, I have to admit, once or twice a month would be NO WHERE NEAR enough for me, even with frequent sex... I'm sorry, but it feels great, so I'm going to do it... And if I haven't been able to do it for a time I do look forward to it.. (Yes, he was lying when he said he didn't miss it, probably, why wouldn't he?)

In a way I find this comparable to using vibrators or something. Let's take a woman that finds it very difficult to orgasm, and she needs vibrators to do this - the man feels inadequate like he cant satisfy her every whim, so she tries to play down its importance, and gets to satisfy herself a couple of times a month...

[CHANDLERS WISH]

SorridLives
If I had to choose one of those above, I would say it is not I am not the sole provider of his orgasms. As I said,- I just sometimes feel he is missing it....and maybe it bothers me that he needs something (sexually) other than me.... Make sense? I know you probably feel that it is wrong to think that way....Selfish maybe?

I know this is your answer to Anon, but from a female's perspective, it's not selfish... Your firstly, a woman, we have emotions, secondly he's your man and with those emotions you are digging up the "what am i not doing", questions... Insecurity, or oliminating facts to ensure that you aren't.. One of the two...

Unfortuntely, we are intuitive and deep thinkers most of the time and so we question.

I have posed your question before and it is a "self" love of manhood to themselves, something that they can't teach a woman, as it's totally different.

When you do it, do it as you may, even with his teaching, guidence, even over time, it's still not the same... It's probably more alive in the sense of seduction, she's in front of me, doing it, a sexual feeling, seducing him, it.

When he does it, it's the same as when we do it, we can control the time, the how..

I think it's normal as long as he is sexually active with you..

And he's very sexually active with you...

As long as it stays that way, he's as i said, more than likely a very sexual person and enjoys all facets of it, by himself, viewing, and with you...

CW

[SorridLives]

It's good that you want to be a great part of your partners sexual alleviation, and you can be. In a biological point of view, I'm not sure if one woman is enough for a man, at least in that they're programmed to get their rocks off as much as possible, however whether or not we like it monogomy is here to stay.

Also, I have to admit, once or twice a month would be NO WHERE NEAR enough for me, even with frequent sex... I'm sorry, but it feels great, so I'm going to do it... And if I haven't been able to do it for a time I do look forward to it.. (Yes, he was lying when he said he didn't miss it, probably, why wouldn't he?)

In a way I find this comparable to using vibrators or something. Let's take a woman that finds it very difficult to orgasm, and she needs vibrators to do this - the man feels inadequate like he cant satisfy her every whim, so she tries to play down its importance, and gets to satisfy herself a couple of times a month...

I understand. You are right. I am trying to get it and re-get it sometimes. I have my moments. Yes, I enjoy it (masturbation) myself....and it is good with a twirling vibe. I really don't "need" it much since partner sex is satisfying.

[SorridLives]

I know this is your answer to Anon, but from a female's perspective, it's not selfish... Your firstly, a woman, we have emotions, secondly he's your man and with those emotions you are digging up the "what am i not doing", questions... Insecurity, or oliminating facts to ensure that you aren't.. One of the two...

Unfortuntely, we are intuitive and deep thinkers most of the time and so we question.

I have posed your question before and it is a "self" love of manhood to themselves, something that they can't teach a woman, as it's totally different.

When you do it, do it as you may, even with his teaching, guidence, even over time, it's still not the same... It's probably more alive in the sense of seduction, she's in front of me, doing it, a sexual feeling, seducing him, it.

When he does it, it's the same as when we do it, we can control the time, the how..

I think it's normal as long as he is sexually active with you..

And he's very sexually active with you...

As long as it stays that way, he's as i said, more than likely a very sexual person and enjoys all facets of it, by himself, viewing, and with you...

CW

Thanks, CW. Yes, I am a woman and I am emotional, like you say. Can't help it. I feel like I want to be everything to him and I can't. He enjoys himself alone sometimes. His right.
I enjoy myself too occasionally...or more when I am in one of those moods, one of those months that I am more horny in that way.
You are right,- he is sexual and it is *normal*.

[pjc]

Look into recent notes concerning male chastity. It works!!! Don't get lost in all of the kinky stuff just try to understand the basic issues and mens behavior. It is still all about love and respect. Male/Female chastity devices have been around for ages. I just think people are afraid of them mostly b/c they were so poorly designed. ....................... Work with it slowly at first and move into longer use 2-3 months over time. Do not forget to love your husband and allow him to cum frequently at first. Understand his frustration at first it may be bad but after a while he will bend and blend into what you both wish and communicat. Do not be weak follow through and work through the tuff time in the first few weeks and days. You will both learn a new love and respect for each other. He needs to know you are with him every minute of every day. Other post have been place on this site discussing Male Chastity. There are many topics to cover relating to how this works - but it does!!!

[anonymouswhitefemale]

I'm guessing that you sell chastity devices and you're here to advertise?

[LoverofSEX]

Well from all the posts here, I have answered my nagging question on "Who services Who" especially if you get him one of those chastity devices, next all you need is a riding crop :-)

If your hubby is taking care of you a regular basis like once a day down to several times a week I fail to see the problem if he still want to take care of himself in addition/ The pron would be a different problem as when I look at porn I could be ready on an hourly basis, all pron does is prime the pump so I'm ready to go at it again.