[Dnathan]

Hello everyone, I tried to look Online but cannot find what I was looking for. I’m interested in anal sex with a potential partner, but I’m kind of concerned that my member won’t fit in her anus. There is quite a height difference between me and her and was hoping for some answers before even approaching her about it. I was wondering if there are any women who has tried anal exploration and is 5 feet or shorter. She is a Filipina so that’s why she’s so small. If there’s any woman here who is willing to share, can you please mention your height, as well as the biggest girth that Comfortably or uncomfortably went in the anus. Thank you very much for your support. I know this can be very awkward. It is for me. Thank you for your support.

[Alison H.]

So I don't think that there's much of a correlation between physical size and anal girth, or at least not one that would cause a major issue. Have you had any problems during vaginal sex? (If the answer is no, you're probably good to go and have little to worry about.)

That said, if she's never had anal sex before, you'll definitely want to take it slowly. There are even anal "trainers" out there, which are basically a set of butt plugs that start very small and get larger in increments. These can be really useful as far as her getting comfortable with the sensations, and basically 'training' her anus a bit before being penetrated by an actual penis.

Likewise, rimming and fingering (slowly) can help to relax her anus beforehand. But make sure to have a good anal lube on hand and use plenty of it. We've got some great options here, all tested and recommended by multiple members of our team.

When you bring the topic up with her, since it sounds like you haven't yet, it's a good idea to talk about it outside of the bedroom so there's no pressure and there's plenty of time to have a thoughtful conversation about it. You can ask her if she ever has, and if not, if she's ever thought about it or might be open to it.

And then go from there.

I know it can be awkward to talk about, but that's why having the convo away from the bedroom is best.

[JonnyR]

Right -- physical height has nothing to do with penis size, vaginal canal depth, or the ability to have anal sex.

I've been with women who were of a larger physical stature that were "tight" and others that you would deem "petite" who could handle me just fine.

The anatomical stuff related to those things goes far beyond height, or physical appearance.

But yes, you need to have some good skill here!

You can't just ram it in there and hope for a good experience.

I would start slowly, with rimming as suggested, inserting a finger first.

One of my favorite tricks is to insert a finger WHILE doing missionary, and using the wetness from intercourse on the middle finger and gently inserting it after rubbing it in and around the anal opening while simultaneously penetrating vaginally with your penis -- this works well because she's likely enjoying the "regular" sex, and if you're smooth and don't rush, she'll be more receptive to anal penetration at the same time and it will likely go a lot smoother because she is completely relaxed and not even thinking about it (read: clenching).

But either way, talk about it and I bet she'd be open to it -- probably 80% of the women I've been with are not just open to anal sex but often as ME for it!