[Merry]

New to the forum, but we are having a few "issues". We are in our early 50s, both attractive, not overweight, etc. He used to want sex virtually every day, now we are down to weekends. It is starting to get to me, is this normal? How often would most 50 year old men want sex in a week?

[LoverofSEX]

I have to think back 18 years but if I remember right I could have done it about three times a week and still do a couple of solo sessions. But we mostly did it Friday night, now we do it more in the AM when she gets up and leaves the bedroom blinds closed I now she want to make love :-) Oh and by the way the solo's are now down to once maybe twice a week.....

[Fire(m)]

Merry,
I don't know about 50 year olds. I am 47 though and I can speak for a 47 year old. I would really like to get some probably 2x a week...maybe 3x. Any more than that I don't think I'd really be interested in. Any less and I feel like I'm missing out.

As it is, I get some about 1x per month...maybe 2x. That is not nearly enough for me, so I supplement this activity with my hand. Ha! Life is tough...oh well.
I am crazy about my wife, so I just deal with it. Good luck in your situation. He's very lucky to have a woman like you.
Cheers.

[SorridLives]

I am a woman of the age range. My husband is also. I am here to tell you that everyone is different....even at this age!
My and I have sex about 5-6 times per week, plus he can and does sometimes get 1-2 or more masturbation sessions in. If he had time alone, he would have partner sex 5-6 times a week AND masturbate at least 4 or more days (once per day, and rarely maybe two). He is very capable of doing that.

[Merry]

Sorrdid Lives,
That is what bothers me, that is pretty much how he was, up untill about a year ago. I am positive there isn't another woman, starting to wonder if it is a medical thing.

[SorridLives]

Sorrdid Lives,
That is what bothers me, that is pretty much how he was, up untill about a year ago. I am positive there isn't another woman, starting to wonder if it is a medical thing.

Talking to him about it is your best bet. It could be that he does have a problem. Is he on medications? That could do it.

[Merry]

Not a big talker about things like that. He is on blood pressure medication, but it is one that is not supposed to have sexual side effects. Life could be so much easier if men could be more open about things.

[SorridLives]

Not a big talker about things like that. He is on blood pressure medication, but it is one that is not supposed to have sexual side effects. Life could be so much easier if men could be more open about things.

I agree that it would be easier. Maybe your husband is embarrassed. My husband gets embarrassed too, but- beyond that- he also does not like it when I try to get in his head too much. He doesn't like me knowing him too well, knowing what he is thinking. That, to me, is not very comforting. He wants to have his own thoughts and keep them private. He has told me in the past that we can't be the same person. He values his personal space, I am sure. I am a person who likes to share everything, so we are different.

[Hystorm]

I agree that it would be easier. Maybe your husband is embarrassed. My husband gets embarrassed too, but- beyond that- he also does not like it when I try to get in his head too much. He doesn't like me knowing him too well, knowing what he is thinking. That, to me, is not very comforting. He wants to have his own thoughts and keep them private. He has told me in the past that we can't be the same person. He values his personal space, I am sure. I am a person who likes to share everything, so we are different.

Amen...and well done.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I agree that it would be easier. Maybe your husband is embarrassed. My husband gets embarrassed too, but- beyond that- he also does not like it when I try to get in his head too much. He doesn't like me knowing him too well, knowing what he is thinking. That, to me, is not very comforting. He wants to have his own thoughts and keep them private. He has told me in the past that we can't be the same person. He values his personal space, I am sure. I am a person who likes to share everything, so we are different.

I understand your thoughts SorridLives, you will give till the cows come home, emotions, sexually but all you really want is the same communication back,. It's understood, not hidden.. My ex-husband was hidden future, men have provided openess and so love mine, it's like WT? i am finding a side that i thought was general with men but is not, they love the endearing way in which i am open, cautious, real and specific...

To many times we hear, opposites attrack as well as diffence in people.

Men sometimes are men, matcho, let's be private, space... Yes, you are different.

I have read so many posts, you incorporate so much into your relationship sexually, and he adds his bits, obviously you two are way open and experiement.

So, Porn and exitment is now there. You both created a monster an opening, try to see this, ok, it's long, arduous, non eventful, sex, you want intimacy, but you play in a field of total sexual arousement, all sorts.

What else can you do? Your doing.

He's masterbating to get more, you have your toys to get more, right?

And, what you are lacking is, intimacy of two people being.

That is the conversation that you need to have, your getting it, just not the way you want, your both in your corners, doing the things you need. What's missing is togetherness. Maybe forget the Porn conversation talk about your toys, his masterbation, your togetherness, and work through that -part.?

CW