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  • rcoreyus
    Veteran Member
    • Sep 2007
    • 4369

    Nothign wrong with it but it doesn't work for a lot of women. Definately not somethign my wife would like, and not of particular interest to me - but whatever floats your boat. It sounds like the original poster is being careful, so I hope he and his SO continue to enjoy this.

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    • Sweet Lady
      Member
      • Jul 2008
      • 43

      Originally posted by owlhunter
      I'm new here. Male. Searched the forum but found nothing on fisting. My SO and I started doing this 2/3 years ago. It took some careful work but we accomplised it.

      she is mid 50's and has had 4 kids.

      Well, it drives her absolutely crazy. Absolutely crazy. But what you see in porn movies (if you have seen fisting in any of them) is totally wrong, at least for her.

      I moce VERY slowly. Very very slowly. Absolutely not fast.

      I wont go into all the details, too many words.

      Are there other members out there who have tried, want to try, enjoy, etc.

      Honestly, this is the first time I have heard of such!!! I didn't even know it was possible!!! LOL I can't believe this!!! LOL!!!
      I have had a good laugh at all the reply's. I think you must have a small fist, cause I can't comprehend an average fist going inside me. Can't even imagine how you get a fist in just at the opening of the vagina!?!!!??! Guess a LOT of lube.

      I agree with Anonymouswhitefemale, QUOTE "Hey, whatever is good for you.
      I think it's more the thing to get onto once you've had a few children and got bored of most of the other stuff.... There's not really any need to strech someone out that much early on...." Anyway, whatever tickles your fancy!!!!

      Personally, this is not for me. I like my vigina tight for penis' ONLY. Fisting is NOT an option for me.

      Okay seriously though, do you REALLY put your fist in there?? How does it feel when you thrust in her with your penis later??

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      • Uneeklyme
        Veteran Member
        • Apr 2008
        • 257

        Its not for everybody thats a given.

        As far as the stretching questions, I imagine if one was doing it all the time they wouldnt rebound to their tight selves but when done on occasion there shouldn't be an issue. Think about it, women have babies with way bigger heads than a fist and they get back to shape in time. It actually takes longer after having a baby as the vagina is forcefully stretched quickly. It doesnt have time to relax into something that big being inside of it. During fisting, if done right, it has the time and as proven by the passing of a baby's head, the vagina can stretch to accomodate alot. In my case, there are times when I have to be stretched to accomodate one finger... thats even after 3 kids and an ocassional attempt at fisting or some rather large dildo play. There are exorcises women can do and some women have strong PC muscles naturally.

        No, I am not into alternative sex practices or anything like that, I just happen to enjoy sex to its fullest potential and am willing to explore and try new things. Not a junkie looking for the best new high, I can get off on strictly missionary just as much as the hard core. Not bored but not boring either.

        I have to ask...littlethumper, why do you say he is sick (didnt see your first reply before delete)? Sure, its not an act some people are interested in or would enjoy but to each his own. Whats so "sick" about it?

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        • Guest

          It just doesn't seem natural to me, that's all. But you're right to each his own. Let's leave it at that.

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          • owlhunter
            Senior Member
            • Jul 2008
            • 101

            I'm Original Poster

            Interesting replys. My SO says we are both "sick"and she loves it. (Little joke.)

            Everything we do is consenting. Always. We have safe word as an emergency bailout, if needed. We both have used it from time to time. And sometimes it is becuase the "pleasure" is so intense one of us cannot stand it any longer.

            My SO is not stretched out. We have sex in missionary position and we both enjoy it. She can easily have an O with normal intercourse in missionary position, as can I.

            We do it because it gives her incredibly intense O's. I do it to help bring her that level of pleasure. It is NEVER a dominance thing. It is NEVER like you see in porno movies. It is VERY slow and gentle. We move that the pace SHE sets. I'm just the hired help. :-)

            We tried it becuase we had heard of it and thought we would give it a try. We found out we liked it. Never/rarely more than once a week. Anything more frequent and it is not enjoyable for her.

            My hands are smallish, but not abnormally small for an adult male. Yes, lots of lub, and as I just said, she sets the pace.

            We have tried many different things. Not because we are bored, but to see if we like them. some we (or one of us) did not enjoy, so we don't do it again. It is that simple.

            When we started the relationship we came to an agreement. These things, ...., are defintly NO's, never, (kids, other people, animals, etc.) and everything else was open for discussion and then possibly trying.

            She loves pegging me and I enjoy it as well. I had to get her a little drunk the first time, but now she really enjoys it. It is never a case of one partner trying to dominate the other. In certain situations on of us may be in the "driving seat" but that is by mutual agreement.

            Hey, we go with the flow and do whatever WE feel we would like to try.

            To Mr. You Are Sick: hey you need an attitude adjustment. Between two consenting adults who WILLING enter into trying something, that's not sick. Weird maybe, but not sick. No if you want REALLY sick, how about all of you out there that voted for George Bush!. That is sick!

            There are many things, e.g. scat, that we definitely would not want to try. But I'm not going to judge those who do it. As long as everyone involved is willingly participating.

            Ladies, if you have not tried it, I do recommend you at least EXPLORE the idea. But you absolutely must have a partner who has the right attitude. Slow and lots of lub. And definitely wear gloves. Definitely. Avoids any possibler harm to vagina.

            Thanks to all of you who responded. I'll be looking for more responses. Nice to start a little debate.

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            • ChelseaRenee
              Veteran Member
              • Jul 2007
              • 252

              Originally posted by owlhunter
              Interesting replys. My SO says we are both "sick"and she loves it. (Little joke.)

              Everything we do is consenting. Always. We have safe word as an emergency bailout, if needed. We both have used it from time to time. And sometimes it is becuase the "pleasure" is so intense one of us cannot stand it any longer.

              My SO is not stretched out. We have sex in missionary position and we both enjoy it. She can easily have an O with normal intercourse in missionary position, as can I.

              We do it because it gives her incredibly intense O's. I do it to help bring her that level of pleasure. It is NEVER a dominance thing. It is NEVER like you see in porno movies. It is VERY slow and gentle. We move that the pace SHE sets. I'm just the hired help. :-)

              We tried it becuase we had heard of it and thought we would give it a try. We found out we liked it. Never/rarely more than once a week. Anything more frequent and it is not enjoyable for her.

              My hands are smallish, but not abnormally small for an adult male. Yes, lots of lub, and as I just said, she sets the pace.

              We have tried many different things. Not because we are bored, but to see if we like them. some we (or one of us) did not enjoy, so we don't do it again. It is that simple.

              When we started the relationship we came to an agreement. These things, ...., are defintly NO's, never, (kids, other people, animals, etc.) and everything else was open for discussion and then possibly trying.

              She loves pegging me and I enjoy it as well. I had to get her a little drunk the first time, but now she really enjoys it. It is never a case of one partner trying to dominate the other. In certain situations on of us may be in the "driving seat" but that is by mutual agreement.

              Hey, we go with the flow and do whatever WE feel we would like to try.

              To Mr. You Are Sick: hey you need an attitude adjustment. Between two consenting adults who WILLING enter into trying something, that's not sick. Weird maybe, but not sick. No if you want REALLY sick, how about all of you out there that voted for George Bush!. That is sick!

              There are many things, e.g. scat, that we definitely would not want to try. But I'm not going to judge those who do it. As long as everyone involved is willingly participating.

              Ladies, if you have not tried it, I do recommend you at least EXPLORE the idea. But you absolutely must have a partner who has the right attitude. Slow and lots of lub. And definitely wear gloves. Definitely. Avoids any possibler harm to vagina.

              Thanks to all of you who responded. I'll be looking for more responses. Nice to start a little debate.
              You must have one "different" sex life if you had to come to an agreement that other people, kids, and animals wouldn't be involved, haha. Isn't that a given...?

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              • tristis
                Member
                • Jul 2008
                • 59

                First of all what's SO? Special Other?

                And second of all. Fisting - Ow! Ew!

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                • Fire(m)
                  Veteran Member
                  • Jul 2008
                  • 236

                  SO is Significant Other

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                  • epsilon
                    Member
                    • Aug 2007
                    • 10

                    Originally posted by Fire(m)
                    I don't want to try, with my s/o. I do have a question though. This may seem like a disrespectful question, but I don't mean it to sound as such.

                    Does fisting not stretch out the woman to the extent that when you have actual sex your penis is...lost?

                    A buddy once told me that he fisted his wife and it had ruined her vagina. He said that his "penis was like a swizzle stick in a martini glass...it might clank on the side of the glass once in a while, but that's it."

                    Again, I'm sure I should say this over. I don't mean any disrespect by asking the question, but I have no idea if my buddy was just pulling my leg or not. Frankly, I'd love to drive my s/o wild, but if it has the effect my buddy described, then my desire to do so would be ...zero.

                    Please let me know if I've been misinformed.
                    Cheers.
                    Hi Fire,
                    The vagina has the distinction of being the body's most elastic orifice, a woman's who's had a child can still be very tight and a woman who's been fisted is in a much better position.

                    If you try it and experience any "slack" afterwords, Kegel exercises (with or without weights) can easily help you regain it. Actually, Kegels have the magical ability to increase both the strength and the elasticity of your vaginal muscles, so it's probably a good idea to do them before you try fisting. Even if you end up deciding not to try it, your s/o may appreciate the additional tightness of an athletic vagina

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                    • miffed23
                      Veteran Member
                      • Mar 2008
                      • 568

                      I dont have a problem with fisting - although the actual name insinuates that it is an inharmonious activity.

                      Dont get me wrong, ive never participated - yet myself and a past partner have experimented with eye-watering sized toys / vegetables / shampoo bottles...etc

                      Does that make me sick?

                      As owlhunter correctly said, it is a completely different sensation, one which must be introduced incredibly slowly and the woman in question needs to be completely relaxed, almost comatosed to fully enjoy the sensation.

                      As for stretching of the vagina....no, it doesnt happen like that, unless youre constantly doing it (excuse the pun), and even if that were the case...kegal exercises put everything back in place....

                      Plus, am i right in thinking that its a massive turn on for the man?

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