[Mme.Marie]

I am an 18 year old girl . My boyfriend and I have been having sex since I was about 16 ( when we lost our virginity to one another ). We have tried a lot of things and have taken care to inform ourselves about birthcontrol options , STDs , and health issues. We have also looked into and tried many positions , their variations , toys , role playing . You name it and we have looked into it ( or skimmed at least ) . I KNOW we wont ever do or know about everything , but we like to try new things.

My problem is that a lot of positions that allow for deep penetration are uncomfortable to painful for me. Its not foreplay , we have spent hours at that before , its not lubrication ... we have bought and used that .Kegel exercises are second nature to both of us by now. My gyno says I am perfectly healthy . Also , from what I understand he is of average size. However , this is becoming frustrating , because even girl on top positions can be painful for me if he moves at all , which isnt fun. There have even been times when missionary became too painful to continue .

I would like to be able to handle deeper penetration comfortably , does anyone have advice for how to remedy this or any suggestions for positions ?

[Sassy-snape]

Hi guys who are smaller tend to put a bigger smile on there other halfs faces, from what im told, because the g spot is only 2-3 inches inside the vagina, which is the pleasure spot, some major grating against that spot will have you screaming.

deeper isnt always better.

[Mme.Marie]

Thanks for your reply . However the issue isnt him , its me . He wants to try deeper stuff but its uncomfortable to painful for me . There is a lot of comflicting info out there so , I figured I'd go ahead and put it out there to get some answers from other people . But Thank you .

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Just like men are different sizes woman are too... Could be that he's got a larger penis than you have a vagina.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

True, but i can also be a tilted cervix have you spoken or seen a gynocologist?

[Mme.Marie]

A tilted cervix ? Hmmm. I just had my annual not too long ago and I have been going to the gyno since I was 15 . They always tell me I am very healthy , but I have never specifically asked . However , that is not something that came to my mind , thank you , I will have to consider that .

[Rod'sGirl]

I guess you've tried and considered just about everything huh? Well, everyone is different. I used to date this guy who had a larger penis than I was used to and he liked to go pretty deep too, but you said size wasn't the problem....I still think you should try relaxing because now everything he does, you're probably expecting it to hurt. Anyways sometimes we ladies go through some things out of.....consideration. For example, anal is not very fun for me, but I endure and try to be as cooperative as possible because I know he's pleased. I don't mean I make myself go through unbearable pain, but its not something I would suggest for us to do, but at the same time I'm willing. So....all can say is try and take it girl! LOL But seriously if it's too uncomfortable and you think its serious just let him know that you need him to take it easy on you as far as the deep penetration goes, and I'm sure he will understand. However, if you know that takes away from his pleasure find something else to substitute what you feel he may be missing. Get creative.......

[Hystorm]

i thought it was 'tipped uterus' but maybe it is cervix.

in any case, that is what my wife has and she cannot do full doggy due to it.
all other positions seem to be fine though, once she is ready.
If she is not, its all painfull.

Good luck.

[FoxyRoxybear99]

Its a tipped uterus (also called retroverted uterus) and it sucks. Basically the penis hits your cervix due to the position of your uterus. I am considering surgery (The UPLIFT Procedure) bc I have been having painful sex for 6 yrs and im done with it. There is really nothing you can do short of surgery I don't think. 1/5 women have a retroverted uterus but some to more degree than others thats why some only experience pain during doggy style and some all the time.

[skipper]

You might consider seeing your gyn again and see if maybe something is askew. My wife started having pain during sex and it ended up being a rather large cyst. At your age, that is doubtful, but there might be some plumbing issues. *Most* women should be able to accomodate an average guy w/o pain. You are you and not most women, but maybe an ultrasound is in order?

There is something out there called a penis buffer. I haven't seen one (this really isn't an issue for me, unfortunately), but it's basically a cck ring that decreases the amount of penetration.

We ordered some sex toys a while back and there was this little vibrator that slips into a very comfortable silicone sleeve that slides over the penis. It was more a novelty than anything else, but it did limit penetration. You might want to look at that as a temp solution.