[SunriseSunset]

I have tried numerous times to orgasm, and yet I just can't do it
I can't let myself go like that...

Any tips?

[Fire(m)]

Well, you didn't give us much information to go on, but here's a shot at it:

1) Relax.
2) Don't give up.
3) Try something different. If you're talking about trying to orgasm from masturbation, try a different method. For example. If you're fingering yourself, then maybe you should try to let the water hit it in the bathtub to see if that works. Or use the showerhead. Or use a vibe.
4) If you're talking about orgasming WITH someone and you're not getting to your "O" through intercourse, that's very common. You should let him go downtown. That will probably take care of you. Or you could finger yourself while you two are doing it.

If you give us more information we can probably offer a lot more suggestions tailored to help you get your "O". Tell us how you're trying and we'll tell you how to fix it to where you're successful!

Cheers.

[Guest]

well you are very young with many issues...read your one thread...maybe it is becuz of your mental issues you have going on that is preventing you from enjoying certain things in life... good luck

[SunriseSunset]

I know I'm young and have mental issues going on, but other people manage to achieve orgasm

I think it's the fear of letting go
losing control
you know?

I was just wondering if there are any tips
I mean
I'm not that young!
Fifteen is way older than a child
I'm entering adulthood soon, scary but I could do with some tips...

Thank you for reading and replying.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I know I'm young and have mental issues going on, but other people manage to achieve orgasm

I think it's the fear of letting go
losing control
you know?

I was just wondering if there are any tips
I mean
I'm not that young!
Fifteen is way older than a child
I'm entering adulthood soon, scary but I could do with some tips...

Thank you for reading and replying.

Regardless of any "issues" that you may have, the fact that you would like to have an orgasm and are asking what tips we could suggest means that you are open to that particular question and any answers,,

Also, on a side note... I was actually very impressed with that Thread that you wrote, because it was evident that you have progressed, are mature and feel you may be able to offer some insite to others that may not be moving on and getting out of depression or dilemors.. Good for you.

The main problem I think most will tell you is, it's not you, it's age.

A lot of women haven't even worked them out in their 20's and even 30's..

You "boyrfriend" for instance may be 17, he may be 15 but he would be without a doubt inexperienced.

If your girlfriends or even him, is stating that "others do it" they are probably facking you know, say i can and do cause i look good. So don't listen to anyone, rather just your body.

There is no rules or tips sweet.

It's kind of experiment and feel comfortable and love your partner and watch the growth over the time and changes.

Just be you.. Don't use any fear that you may have had from other things in your life. If you are happy with the person you are with and having sex with that person and trust them, then just be you and understand, Rome wasn't built in a day.

CW

[SunriseSunset]

Thank you CW

I haven't' got a boyfriend, I'm a virgin as well, but I hear about other peoples orgasms and I'm just like ... 'why can't I have one?' I mean, I climax, but I'm just scared to let go I think...

And thank you for saying about my thread.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Thank you CW

I haven't' got a boyfriend, I'm a virgin as well, but I hear about other peoples orgasms and I'm just like ... 'why can't I have one?' I mean, I climax, but I'm just scared to let go I think...

And thank you for saying about my thread.

Great, so does that mean I can act like a Mum now and say "well stay that way for as long as you can?" ha.

Fear of the un-known (as you know) stops a lot of things.

Just relax and enjoy exploring your body and finding out who you are and what you like and don't like.

It doesn't matter if you don't and probably wont happen for a long time as i said, people say it but only they know if they're telling the truth..

If they are way older than you then probably they are... But, if they are around your age I would almost "bet" $1000 that they have never ever had one...

Don't stress just grow.

CW

[ChelseaRenee]

Thank you CW

I haven't' got a boyfriend, I'm a virgin as well, but I hear about other peoples orgasms and I'm just like ... 'why can't I have one?' I mean, I climax, but I'm just scared to let go I think...

And thank you for saying about my thread.

I'm 19 and still not an adult, so I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that you're close to it at 15, haha. Not to say that you're immature! Not in the least, it's just that at 15 you've got so much living left...In just 4 years I've changed completely. But anyway, I can't orgasm by myself. Just with my boyfriend. Maybe you'll find the same is true for you...I just can't get turned on all by my lonesome the way I can when i'm with him, ya know?

[SunriseSunset]

Yeah, I know

Thank you, heh, and I know you're not calling me immature.

[silvertae]

Do you get close to an orgasm and then stop yourself or are you not even getting close?

Explore around online, watch some porn, read some erotica, watch a sexy scene in a movie, etc and find the things that really do it for you mentally. Then focus on them while you explore yourself. Touch yourself any and all ways you can think of once you're already aroused and you should be able to tell the things that feel the best.

Then just relax and don't worry about "letting go". It's just you. No one is watching. No one cares what you're doing. No one will judge you. This is special YOU time when you can be free to make yourself feel amazing and ignore any outside stress. Focus on those kinds of thoughts and maybe you'll be able to let things go enough for it to happen.