[withered_rose]

Hey justlikeheaven,
I was a young woman just like you in your position, wanting to give my self to someone that I was messing around with because I knew that I would get his attention, and now that I am engaged and have been with some one that loves me with all of his heart, I regret it. Don't give your self up so easily, you may find that it was a huge mistake, It really depends on how you view your sexuality though. for me it was when i was just coming into my own and i finally got guys to notice me, and i thought well hey its just one more thing that I know is going to feel good, and that I am going to enjoy, but for me it was not the experience that i thought it would be, we had talked for a couple of days after wards but that was about it, and i felt horrible about it. But like I said it's really up to you, my advice just like CW and many others I think you should wait, wait for someone that loves you, for someone that you can trust to give every part of your self to. Dont let your self be broken, or become another notch in this guys belt.
good luck. and I hope my response helped atleast a little

[justlikeheaven]

Do you REALLY have anything to lose by waiting a few months and test him?
CW

not at all. but i feel so vulnerable around him, to the point where i'm almost afraid of what i'll do. i'm all for waiting, but sometimes i feel the time is right but i know for sure it's not. if that makes sense?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Have a look again.... You posted the same time as withered_rose, and see her reply that may help you a bit more...

I do know what you mean...

Your ready to experience and you want to cause you feel something for him, but you don't want to for the reasons we are all saying.

I do know...

Have a read at the poster under me, or now actually she's above me.

CW

[justlikeheaven]

thank you, withered rose.
i'm pretty sure i'm going to go with everyone's advice and wait till i find someone who loves me. i think i can wait a while to find him. and if in the future it turns out to be him, well then that would be amazing :]

[Richard S]

Most of the people on this forum are grownups, and we look back on what our own lives were like when we were your age. Some of us had wonderful first-time experiences, while others would just as soon forget, or give anything to do it over, knowing what we know now.

But now, it is your turn to be young, discovering these things for the first time. Treasure that. Don't be so quick to give it up. At the same time, there is nothing wrong with living in the moment, and sooner or later it will come down to just taking a chance on a guy, because it feels right in the moment. But you should have enough faith in yourself to know that, when it's the right guy, you'll just know, and you'll know because he will be the one to approach you, and make you feel like you are beautiful and special to him.

You need to trust yourself and make your own choices. But always value yourself, and never, ever let a guy take that away from you. You always have a choice.

Take care and God bless.

[justlikeheaven]

thank you. it's good to hear other people's opinions other than friends because no one seems to be judgemental & i like that. i will definitely turn to this site more often :]

[withered_rose]

justlikeheaven, I am glad that I could offer some advice, best of luck to you

[whenkissescollide]

Honestly, my opinion is that you shouldn't because first of all you don't really know if he actually likes you, and you don't know if you mean that much to him. If you two don't talk that much, then maybe you shouldn't. You could talk to him about it also.

[justlikeheaven]

yeah i've realized how messy this situation is & i've come to the conclusion that i am not giving my virginity up to someone who doesn't deserve it :]

[withered_rose]

GOOD FOR YOU And who knows you may just find the right guy when you least expect it, I know that's how it happened for me.