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I would just try to keep the lines of communication as open as possible..if you are on top..ask once in a while "does that feel good" or try to asess how his body is reacting to you..is he breathing a lot..or moaning? or squeezing you cause it feels good? also, dont worry so much about going fast or enduring...try going really slow and sensual, see if that feels good. Also, you dont have to stay up there forever...after a few minutes suggest another position. -
I agree , like in anything, talk about it. We both love me on top. When my calves are flat beside him and its more grinding, he loves to sit up and kiss me or suck on my breasts as a break. Wrong term, it's what he wants and it's sweet. I'm somewhat muscular, so when on the floor it's different. I stand over him and lower myself , keeping my feet on the floor. In that way my up/down motion can be as gentle or with as much force as I want. But him being able to look and see himself going in and out, seeing more of me there, and watch my boobs bounce cranks him up big time. He begs for me to pound him harder and that took some getting used to that fearing I'd hurt him. But 1 thing if doing that. Give yourself some "leeway" and don't go till he's almost out before you start the downward motion. If you go at it hard and he slips out and you can't stop instantly, obviously you may "land" on his penis wrong and hurt your sweetie. A 1-2 inch safety prevents that. I only hurt him doing that once early in the relationship, but God I felt horrible as it obviously hurt him so much. The safety feels just as good for him as trying to do his full length each time. Once you're used to it, talking dirty to him while you're doing it will also make him crazy.
My b/f is totally into emotions/thoughts during sex and we started dating always tells me what the different things we do makes him feel. Doing what I just described makes him feel I don't even care about me getting off, it makes him feel all I want is to do tear him in half from wanting him (in a loving way). My guy can't even stand for 15 minutes after he cums this way, which is major cool too. Occasionally I make him try to get up just to watch his legs give out and buckle. Then just hold him till he recovers since I know I seriously wasted him
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Until i met my hubby i had never done the on top position but now i love it as it really turns me on and 99% always makes me cums especially if he is playing with my nipples at the same time as i am riding him
It was awhile before i found the way i liked it and him to just takes abit of time and practise thats all
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You should be with my DH he loves me on top and would let me do it all the time
Until i met my DH i had never done the on top position now i love it just takes practise and the first time i knew i was doing it right is when he came inside me
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I love being on top! I have multiple orgasms on top but when we move to doggie style, which used to be my favorite position, i cant cum!
One trick I learned was to lean forward like you were going to kiss him, almost face to face, do a kegal exercise as you come up slightly then relax as you go back down...do this several times and he will melt. Works every time!Comment
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