[buck]

I Agree!!! Dudes Dont Know What They're Doin Either. Ouch!! How Bout We Play With My Vibrator Instead..

[HURT&CONFUSED]

Just because you may not think you are "fit enough" to be on top that to me is BS. There are so many things you can do and the guy is just so excited that he can actually enjoy being the one not having to do all the work. Some people say that men cant cum with women on top and that is most definitely not the truth. There are several things that can help. Everyone has given you great advise but here is a few more tips. First off once you start completely stretch up with your arms play with your hair and just give a good stretch it helps relieve some of the pressure on you, also, you can arch your back and reach behind you grab his legs and continue to grind. Think of your boyfriend like a saddle, the english ride up and down and that can tire you out, galloping gives you that forward back motion and that will stimulate your clit. You can change it up and that will help him enjoy it as well. You can also lay forward and kiss on his neck and chest and still continue to grind. He will work with you and so will a great bed. The chair idea rocks as well. If you can use a chair that you can get your feet on the ground you will have total control. Rock on sister and enjoy it no matter what. It's as much about you as it is about him and he is gonna love you doing anything on top. Yeee Haaawww!!!! Ride it till the sun cums up!!! When you're on top, you're in charge.

[buck]

honestly, i watch porn for tips

[msfoxy03]

porn can teach you, but you cant learn if it makes you want to do something, and you never get to finish watching.

[eternalfire]

when on top do what makes u orgasm. i dont know about other men to i get very visualy turned on. if what u are doin makes him uncofortable talk about it with him find out what makes u both cofortable( and u both get to keep trying to u find something comfortable)

[Jenna venasery]

truthful, i have had no experience (well exsept books), but i think that, you might try watching or reading it may help kay ^-^, a place you can go to read is fanfiction

[Heatwave]

First off once you start completely stretch up with your arms play with your hair and just give a good stretch it helps relieve some of the pressure on you.

Great tip, thanks, ..makes so much sense but I never take the time to stretch and just enjoy being up there. I find that when I'm on top I feel like it's my time to perform, and even though I often chat away, I never consider taking a little break rather than trying my latest choreography. Hehe, wonder who else 'chat's' during sex, I don't mean dirty talking I mean good 'ol chin-wagging. Mee!

[msfoxy03]

This is all excellent advice. i think im too focused on what and how to do it instead of how it feels.

[Na-Na]

Great tip, thanks, ..makes so much sense but I never take the time to stretch and just enjoy being up there. I find that when I'm on top I feel like it's my time to perform, and even though I often chat away, I never consider taking a little break rather than trying my latest choreography. Hehe, wonder who else 'chat's' during sex, I don't mean dirty talking I mean good 'ol chin-wagging. Mee!

Our conversations tend more toward the silly, but chatting during sex is fun. I never could do dirty talk. Not really my thing.

I have to agree with the chair idea. I've found that I don't tire as fast that way. And leaning forward is good to. It helps relax the legs for a little bit, gives you access to his mouth/neck, and brings your assets into close range. Not to mention the grinding you get at the same time. Switching up your leg and arm positions helps too. I'm not particularly in shape, but I can go for a while on top, as long as I switch it up every few minutes. And don't be afraid to take a break. Try pausing hip movement and focus on other areas of the body without disengaging. It gives you a chance to get your breath back. Some guys are ok with that one, some aren't. I've found that my boy is fine with it, as long as he's still receiving some attention.

[kira]

The main reason I like on top is because I don't have to match myself to my boyfriend. He likes fast and sometimes I can't keep up. When I'm on top I can start slow and do deep strokes. I can even find ways to use less energy than when I'm trying to match his movements while he's on top. The first time we did it he tried to move his hips to push me to go faster which got both of us nowhere. Finally he gave up and ended up admitting that it was so much better the way I did it. Sex is not a race. You don't have to see how fast you can reach orgasm or make him reach it every time. Sit down and take your time. Move around and see what feels good. Eventually you will find something that feels really good and that you can do without wearing yourself out too quickly. It's pretty much a gurantee that if you are enjoying it and show it he's going to enjoy it too even if it's not typically what he would do.