[msfoxy03]

I have tried foreplay with my man once and he told me that that will not make him orgasm, he must be inside of me. but i want to make him orgasm with forplay. how can i do that?

what are other techniques in general that i can try to arouse him. so far if i so much as touch him gently around his face or anywhere, he quickly becomes aroused. I want to know more ways to arouse and tease him to make him go crazy.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

He's wrong that he can't orgasm through foreplay.

Find some guide on how to give good oral sex, and if you can be bothered practice on a dildo or something. Watch him masturbate, learn how he touches himself and mimick it. Start off by teasing him a lot, and slowly slowly build to it. If he's really getting into it, back off a little, then build up a few times.

Maybe even talk some filth to him, that can work wonder, as a lot of an orgasm is in the head..

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I've already said my peace on your other thread... I agree with Anon, make him show you however, you are giving way too much to this guy 10 years older whom refuses to commit and , you are not you at all, rather only focusing on him and HIS DESIRES...

It's a two way street.

Go back 12 months add you into the equation. You are spending all your time to please a man whom can't commit..

cw

[msfoxy03]

You have a point CHANDLER. That is the issue that has been troubling me. I have a habit of trying to please others and not taing care of me. He has admitted that himself.
I still go to school and take care of my business, work and take care of my son which he loves so much, but i would hate to be waisting time. that just wouldnt be fair to me.

[WildChild]

This thread has answered a couple questions I posed on another thread. Interesting, you seem to be relying on him to teach you something about sex but he doesn't seem to know much himself. My Goodness if men couldn't orgasm from foreplay why do you think they are so into blow jobs or hand jobs? In their teens or even early 20s they can cum with a lap dance, you don't have to take your clothes off or touch skin! As they get older they aren't so quick on the trigger, it takes more skill and effort. How does he react if you are the sexual aggressor?

Get yourself some books or tapes, get some education and don't forget to spend some time learning what gets you off. Know what turns you onm brings you to orgasm is something you your know before you get too involved in what does it for him.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You have a point CHANDLER. That is the issue that has been troubling me. I have a habit of trying to please others and not taing care of me. He has admitted that himself.
I still go to school and take care of my business, work and take care of my son which he loves so much, but i would hate to be waisting time. that just wouldnt be fair to me.

No it wouldn't... But everything we do in life, is a "life lesson" of some sorts and we take things with us from that "connection", experience.

I think what Wildchild and No1 ( he posted but it got lost in the system), (on your other thread) also have an incling that you are feeling this.

Women have amazing intuition especially because you are a Mother.

There has to be a reason why you "feel" that you may be wasting your time?

What things apart from Sex do you two do, how is that side of your relationship, the "non-sexual" part..

How close are you two outside of that.

CW

[msfoxy03]

outside of sex

We have regular activities like family time.We tae my son places, whether its a theme park, or a regular park. He takes him places on his own to spend time with him. We still go on our dates to new places, or we will have a romantic dinner at home. He will cook dinner so that i can try foods from his culture. He works alot,so would bring him dinner to his job and sit with him on his break.He likes to send gifts through the mail with no name on them so that i can be surprised. we are able to lay in each other's arms for hours and talk and talk. He loves to listen and he doesnt forget anything. he love to go on romantics getaways, walks on a beach, or cuddle and watch a movie even though i always fall asleep. he is happy as long as i am in his arms, so its not like we just have sex all day. This is actually the first real relationship that i have been in.
Even the relationship with my child's father was just fun and games ( on his part)

[WildChild]

Where is he from?

[msfoxy03]

He is from africa. Why?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

We have regular activities like family time.We tae my son places, whether its a theme park, or a regular park. He takes him places on his own to spend time with him. We still go on our dates to new places, or we will have a romantic dinner at home. He will cook dinner so that i can try foods from his culture. He works alot,so would bring him dinner to his job and sit with him on his break.He likes to send gifts through the mail with no name on them so that i can be surprised. we are able to lay in each other's arms for hours and talk and talk. He loves to listen and he doesnt forget anything. he love to go on romantics getaways, walks on a beach, or cuddle and watch a movie even though i always fall asleep. he is happy as long as i am in his arms, so its not like we just have sex all day. This is actually the first real relationship that i have been in.
Even the relationship with my child's father was just fun and games ( on his part)

What was the question sweet?

Sorry lol, you just described THE IDEAL MAN,.....

Why? exactly but I think the poster was thinking "European Man" they are bought up to "respect their woman" hense maybe her question.

You have a beautiful man, no wonder you want to give...

Truly I can't go back and find, then reply , lol I am in awe over what you just said, he sounds like an honest/caring/affordable/loveable man, so you want to please him more?

Without going back ..............

The man obviously loves you unconditionally regardless.

You must be providing just what he needs, emotions, truth, respect.

CW

CW