[Fish]

My boyfriend and I love having sex but we don't love the idea of having a baby anytime soon.

I know, I know...you guys probably think we're ridiculous for being so anal about safety but peace of mind is a high priority for us right now.

With that said...we want to have sex without condoms but don't want to lose any protection. So do you think vcf and withdrawal in combination with the bc pill would be just as effective as condoms/pill?

[x.st.angel.x]

Protection is important so i agree with you there. However the pill used correctly by itself will protect you but if you want extra care get him to pull out while on birth control

[Fish]

with no spermicide?

I take my pill religiously, but I don't want to be in the 0.01% category that ovulates once...

[x.st.angel.x]

No spermicide needed but hey you can use that as well, theres no limits to how much protection you use

[Guest]

having three kids already is the best birth control there is!

seriously though, if you dont want to use condoms, we used to use a vaginal suppository with spermicide in it.

and no, we werent using it when got preggers

[Fish]

That would have been my next question! Lol. Are the suppositories easier to use than the film? I don't have experience with either except that I have 3 films sitting in my bedside drawer.

[Guest]

oh we've never used film. in fact there isnt a single home sex video of us in any type of media other than digital!

just joking. we never used film so i cant comment on it.

[kira]

Spermicide would probably be more reliable than withdrawal for most people and more fun. I've used vcf. It's pretty simple and doesn't interupt sex much. Just fold it, slide it in, and continue on. Either person can do it. You do want to wait a few minutes before starting penetration but just continue foreplay for awhile after inserting the film. There are also sponges which have spermicide in them and you can just slide those in as well. Either one would be fine as a backup to pills. I don't want to run the numbers but the fraction of a fraction odds that something would go wrong is plenty safe enough for me without condoms or withdrawal added on top of it. There are also other methods using spermicide plus a physical barrier that would have even high effectiveness. These would be cervical caps and diaphragms. You will have to discuss it with your doctor and get fitted for one but after that supposedly they aren't too difficult to use and like I said more effective than just loose spermicide in there or similar methods.

2 warnings though. Plenty are allergic to spermicide and I eventually found I couldn't use it. If things feel extra warm, irritated, swollen, itchy, etc... stop the spermicide and look in to something else. Also you should not have sex without condoms unless you are confident neither of you has an STD. You can carry one without symptoms so you should both be tested and in this relationship long enough to see if symptoms appear as well to get to know whether you can trust the other person about it.

[Fish]

Thank you for your advice!

As for STDs, we are both each other's first. We were together for over 3 years before we had intercourse...it's only been a month or so since our first time. I trust him with my life, and vice versa...

[sourpuss]

If you are taking the pill correctly, you shouldn't need a backup method.
From my experience, the film was not good. I was bummed too because I was excited that it was an option. But for three days after using it, I was irritated, sore and itchy.